This is for all those boys and girls who are being bullied or who have been bullied before. My heart goes out to all of you, I was bullied at school myself the girls would call me names every day they seen me. I had eggs thrown at me when I walking home and was even attacked as a dare by the school prankster. To this day I am a much stronger girl than I was back then and I hope this will help you as this is what I did myself to beat the bullies.
Being bullied what can I do?
When you are being bullied you should tell someone about it. That could be your best friend, your parents, the head of year or head of the school, your college tutor, a trusted teacher or even your doctor. You need to tell someone about what is going on before it breaks you and makes you more upset than you already are.
What will happen when I talk about it?
When you talk about being bullied you might feel ashamed, I know I did when I told my mother, I felt that she would think I was weak or stupid or even making it up as I would lie all of the time when I was a little younger. You should never feel ashamed, the only people who are doing shameful things are the bullies themselves. When you talk about it with who you choose let them know how it is effecting your daily life and how it has made you feel, tell them the names of anyone who has been bullying you too.
What if something happens when I tell?
If you tell your parents you should ask your parents if you can stay away from where the bullies are until they have been dealt with. If they are at school ask if you can take a day or two off school as your parents contact the school and let them know about the situation. They may come up with extra plans like lessons away from the bullies where you can be safe or they could remove the bullies from the class if there has been any violence. If someone ever attacks you at school you should ring the police as soon as you can and tell them about the abuse you have received. Bullying is abuse and that is the message people really need to know. Whatever happens dont let the bully win, be brave and tell someone. Never be afraid of the bully and dont show any weakness to them that they could try to exploit. Ignore them if you can until it has been dealt with.
Am I alone in this?
You may feel terribly lonesome as you go through the hell known as bullying but fight back for yourself and do the right thing by letting someone know. You will feel some relief that someone other than yourself knows about whats going on and you can share your feelings with them. Your parents may even be able to allow you to go to another school.
Is violence back the answer?
I know some people who think hitting a bully back is right but I disagree with it. Fighting back can make things worse for yourself. The best weapon you have in this situation is the help of an adult, an adult can put a stop to the situation fully whilst hitting back could make the bullies more violent and the bullying more frequent.
Where else can I get help on this
There is the national bullying helpline for you to call if you are being bullied, they can give you personal and case by case help but they will tell you to tell your parents or someone close who is an adult.
The phone number is not free so please ask someone before using their phone 0845 22 55 787 in the UK, I dont have any USA numbers for the USA members but if you find one please PM me and I will add it to this post.
What about cyber bullying?
Cyber bullying happens only online and can happen on almost any website. Cyber bullying can be just as upsetting as in person bullying and there is ways you can deal with it.
What is cyber bullying?
Cyber bullying happens online on websites like Facebook and can happen on forums too. Anywhere you can put information about yourself cyber bullying can start. It can be as text messages to your phone, if you receive cyber bullying through a text message contact the police and they will be able to trace the number to the phone owner.
Cyber bullying can be a threatening message to your email address, harrassing messages saying how they dont like how you look, messages saying things that are mean, disrespectful or otherwise abusive.
How to deal with cyber bullying?
A good way to deal with cyber bullying is to contact a websites owner and let them know about the situation. In some circumstances they may not do anything about it so the only thing you can do which is best is ignore the bully and use any block features the site has to get rid of them and block them without any kind of response. Bullies get bored when they dont have anything to work with and that is normally what you say to them. Ignore and block and if it is too much, leave the computer or website.
Im hoping this will help someone someday