02-01-13, 04:35 PM
Stop being an idiot.
Join Date: Aug 2011
January: Advice of the Month
Hey guys, how's it going?
Well, the plan is for me to make at least one advice thread each month for this 2013 year. This is something I've been thinking about doing for a few months now, so I waited until the new year began. The advice will have a wide range to where I can hopefully hit someone with helpful words. Also, feel free to PM me if you have anything specific you want me to post about. As always, PM me if you need anything about anything.
Getting Out of a Rut
I think we've all been there before. Being "stuck in a rut" is one of those things where you start to be complacent. You get bored with the world and maybe you want to check out of life all together. It feels like you can't get going with your future and you're stuck in either your past or your current situation. Being in a rut can be a dangerous thing and it can zap your life out of your body. Often times, people aren't even aware they're in a rut until they get deep enough in to notice.
I'm a systematic kind of person, so I believe taking steps is the way to get out of a psychological rut.
1. Write down your daily schedule:
So grab some paper and write down everything you normally do from the moment you wake up until you go to sleep at night. By doing this, you have a tangible relation with your rut. You can see how you spend your day and what it consists of. For example, mine would be something like..
a. Wake up
b. Work out
c. Eat breakfeast
d. listen to music as I get ready
etc. etc. until you're asleep
Try to make the list as detailed as possible. Mine was just a rough outline.
2. Write down what you like to do:
Go ahead and grab another piece of paper and write down everything you like to do. It could be things like playing sports, watching tv, eating, watching YouTube videos, etc. Anything you like to do, write it down. If you have trouble listing more than a couple things, this is your first road block. If you can't think of anything you like, find activities you enjoy before moving on to the next step. It's very important to have things in your life that you like; without these things, life is boring and redundant.
3. Analyze both papers:
How often do you do the things you like in your normal day? Is it a lot? None? Where can you make time in your schedule to do things you like? Do you have "too much time on your hands"? Are you too busy?
You see, once you analyze how you spend your day vs. how you WANT to spend your day, you can see how close or far away you are from living how you want, activity-wise.
4. Find new ways to live your day:
When you're bored/stuck in a rut, you don't have enough variety in your life. Things can easily become stale, boring, and redundant without variety. So for example, start to listen to music while getting ready. Why not get some exercise to get your day going? Change up your food choices maybe? Meditation is nice to do in the morning or before you sleep.
5. Think POSITIVE:
This idea can be overlooked sooooo often because it's cliche as fuck. For me, it gets to the point where I skim over this portion of advice articles. I hope none of you have done that yet. Look, I'll try to say this differently to make it more effective:
Let's say you live your life more focused on the negative than the positive. What happens to your mood? When you focus on bad, you feel bad. What happens when you feel bad? When you feel bad, you do bad. If you feel bad, do you honestly think you can "live a good life"? It all starts with how you think. This may in fact be the most important step i can offer you. Not only is thinking negative a bad thing, but it becomes a habit without you even realizing it. So to break the habit, whenever you notice yourself thinking negative, think of two things positive in your life. Think about the things you LOVE. I LOVE showers, food, basketball, and things like that. Focus on that stuff like you're actually in the process of doing them.
This sounds silly, but it's something more practical. Whenever you wake up in the morning, the first thing you should do is think of something positive about yesterday, get out of bed, and stretch your body out. Touch your toes, swing your arms, do jumping jacks, and anything else. Have fun with it and get yourself awake. Why do this? Often times our day is based off of how we start out. Stretching is good for your body, but it also gets your blood flowing. It makes it easier to start your day when you wake up and it's a good routine to get into.
Guys, do what you love. If you're stuck in a rut, change things up. It doesn't matter what you do different, but do something different. Different experiences breed different perspectives on life. Go out with your hair a mess. Wear that loud shirt in your closet. Sing in public. It doesn't matter what you do, but do it loud and proud. Point is, have fun with life and sometimes we're all too serious. Find out how YOU live your life and it's up to you to make changes.
Side note: Ruts can sometimes breed mental health or physical health issues. Sometimes, for example, depressed people get in ruts that can last months or years. Sometimes depression causes ruts, but sometimes ruts can cause mental issues. If you suffer from mental health issues, consult a doctor. This advice may not be for everyone, but this is what I've found to work for me.
Last edited by Halo; 02-01-13 at 04:52 PM..