24-03-13, 11:52 AM
Join Date: Aug 2012
Remember how lucky you are.
I'm writing this because I feel like I'm always repeating this advice to a lot people.
If you're aged 13-18 and you're suicidal or you self harm, mainly because of school and being bullied then this is aimed towards you.
So you feel this way because of some bullies in school? Have you thought about your future at all? Because if you did you'd realise that these bullies will not be in your life forever. Yes, they're annoying and they're mean now but you won't have to look at or deal with them again when you graduate. You'll meet new people in your life as you get older who will treat you better.
If you're reading this and for whatever reason, you know you're going to be seeing these people after you graduate, maybe they're going to the same college or university you're going to and you're worried they'll bully you still, then think again. The bullies aren't always going to be that way. As they get older and realise there are more important things in the world than putting others down, they'll get bored and focus on other things. As you get older, you'll be able to tolerate more bullshit from people in a more positive way too. All you have to do is ignore it until it fades.
Bullies aren't everywhere, well they are, but most mature as they become adults and realise it's not the right way to be. So don't consider throwing your life away now because of a few troubled people. It may feel like a lifetime but it's seriously not. Your life has barely begun!
If you did commit suicide, you'd not only bring grief and distress to your own family but to the bullies themselves. I know you're probably thinking, 'they should grieve and feel guilty, they deserve it.' but believe it or not, bullies are still human. People who bully are bullying for a reason; be it they're very insecure themselves, they do it so they don't get bullied or maybe they get bullied at home and that's what they've grown up with. Most bullies would feel guilty for provoking your suicide and it would have a negative and permanent affect on the rest of their lives which wouldn't help them if they're already troubled. It would be an unfair and selfish act of revenge which would be very disadvantageous to you and your family at the same time.
So when you're getting bullied, remember that these kids are usually very troubled and weaker than you are. So smile when they're mean and remember you've got it a lot easier than a lot of people your age; you have a home, you have friends, you have family, you have food on the table every day, you have entertainment etc. Remember all the things you do have and what things in your life makes you happy. Remember those who really love you and would miss you if you did take your life. Remember that committing suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.