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Old 15-04-09, 10:37 AM   #1
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Icon1 Relationship Jealousy/insecurity as a teenager

A lot of teens will go into relationships and sometimes become insecure and jealous. Some teenagers will find themselves snapping at their boyfriend or girlfriend over very silly things and things they are sometimes even imagining. A lot of the time insecurity comes from your childhood and a lot of the time from a past relationship or experience which wasnt a good experience.

I have a friend and this is his story.

He met this girl when he was 17 and he has been with her since then and he is now 22. When they met he would tell me how happy they were together and after about 1 year he would tell me of his girlfriend always becoming jealous and insecure over what some people would consider petty things.

He told me about her arguing with him because he had text messages from a female friend asking how he is and how his girlfriend threw his phone into a lake. The text messages he said were purely innocent and he didnt even reply to them.

He also told me about 2 years into their relationship how his girlfriend was accusing him of fancying people left right and centre when he gave no reason at all to make her jealous or worry about what he was doing.

He's now split up with his girlfriend because of all the arguing over things that he never did and was accused of.

Insecurity obviously isnt a good thing in a relationship especially when there is no reason to be and these are a few tips on how to cope with being insecure and/or jealous:

  1. Try sitting down with your partner and talk about your love for one another. Share your feelings and let them know how you feel.
  2. Buy them a nice gift now and then to make them feel special as insecurity sometimes occurs due to feeling left out or not special.
  3. Take him/her out with you all of the time when you go places, you will both enjoy yourself. Sitting indoors arguing wont help.
  4. If you feel insecure and are about to snap, calm yourself by going into another room and having a think to yourself about how you feel and how to behave as sometimes insecure/jealous people can behave erratically.
  5. Spend more time with each other.
  6. Let him or her know you care for them regularly and always show affection when one of yous are down.
  7. A lot of insecure people can have insecurities about their body and looks, complimenting one another on how one another looks will help.
  8. Stay positive, try not to make one another feel negative about the relationship and do positive things together.
  9. Give each other your ideas on life and the paths in life you are both following, discuss how you feel about the life you are living with one another too.
  10. Try not to bicker and argue, discuss your issues.
In order to overcome insecurity and jealousy you both need to trust one another and without trust your relationship will be very rocky. You should reward one another with loving gestures and tell each other how great yous are.

Insecurity and jealousy can be a very complex thing which both people must work their way around. Some people naturally become jealous and others dont, just work at your relationship and it wont end up like my friends.

If you distrust your girlfriend or boyfriend then work at trusting them, it will help your relationship so much.

To be continued.

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^ You read all that in one minute after he posted it? wow lol good article babe
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Thanks Michael I know some people who are like this and its a shame :(
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Old 17-04-09, 07:49 AM   #5
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wow thats like what happened with me and my ex boyfriend
post more Michael I hate cliffhangers!! plus i wanna hear the rest *sits down ready to read more*




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all i can say is one thing..'trust'
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