mom hates my boyfriend ):
Posted 16-07-10 at 08:39 PM by lindseyvaye
For the past two years Ive been progressively losing my patience with my mom.
All through high school I never asked to go to parties and I rarely asked to hang out with friends and I never had a boyfriend. Now that I have graduated I figured I would have more freedom to date guys and hang out with my friends. But I was wrong, my mom hardly ever lets me go out when I ask, especially if I ask to do something with my boyfriend. She cant stand him and I dont know why. Whenever I ask why she will never give me and direct answer.
There has been a couple things that have happened that caused her to lose trust for him but he hasnt dont anything wrong in months. He doesnt even want to come over to my house because he is somewhat afraid of her.
She is constantly asking me things like "why dont you date this guy?" or "why do you want to be tied down to one guy? theres so many other guys out there" I think the reason why she doesnt like could be because she is really stereotypical (not racist). My boyfriend is mexican and Im white and she is always saying stereotypical things about mexican people. She doesnt tyr to get to know him, she just assumes things about him. I also think she is afraid of me growing up and not needing her anymore or maybe she feels like my boyfriend is taking me away from her and that she is going to be alone since my dad left her about a year ago.
I dont know what to do or how to tell her that Im growing up and she needs to start letting me make my own desicions.
Can anyone help before I go crazy? :/
All through high school I never asked to go to parties and I rarely asked to hang out with friends and I never had a boyfriend. Now that I have graduated I figured I would have more freedom to date guys and hang out with my friends. But I was wrong, my mom hardly ever lets me go out when I ask, especially if I ask to do something with my boyfriend. She cant stand him and I dont know why. Whenever I ask why she will never give me and direct answer.
There has been a couple things that have happened that caused her to lose trust for him but he hasnt dont anything wrong in months. He doesnt even want to come over to my house because he is somewhat afraid of her.
She is constantly asking me things like "why dont you date this guy?" or "why do you want to be tied down to one guy? theres so many other guys out there" I think the reason why she doesnt like could be because she is really stereotypical (not racist). My boyfriend is mexican and Im white and she is always saying stereotypical things about mexican people. She doesnt tyr to get to know him, she just assumes things about him. I also think she is afraid of me growing up and not needing her anymore or maybe she feels like my boyfriend is taking me away from her and that she is going to be alone since my dad left her about a year ago.
I dont know what to do or how to tell her that Im growing up and she needs to start letting me make my own desicions.
Can anyone help before I go crazy? :/
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I don't really think there's much of a soloution to this problem, even if you invite him round and ask your mum to actually have a go at talking to him instead of being pathetic, she'd probably still be an arse about it, or just try and please you and say things behind his back instead. You're just going to have to deal with her until you can leave, but you're going to have to have a talk with her about having some freedom or else she's just going to carry on practically keeping you a prisoner. You should ask her why you aren't allowed to go anywhere and if she doesn't give you a real answer, demand one. You need to be upfront about it or nothing will change.Posted 22-07-10 at 03:09 PM by apples
Updated 22-07-10 at 03:11 PM by apples -
You need to show your mum that you're happy with him. I had the same problem- my mum was so strict growing up that I had to almost rebel when i turned 17, I had to make my own decisions and let her trust me to be independent. You don't need your mothers approval to grow up- you just have to do it.Posted 10-08-10 at 02:05 PM by ashleigh
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