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I don't think that parents should have the right at ALL to smack their children! My parents have Never smacked me NOT once and that's how I think all family's should be like. What good comes out of smacking children? Nothing. What Does it normally hurt the child? Yes. Does it have a good effect on the child? No, in some cases it can make the child to act, worse than before. These are some of the questions, and answers, that I ask myself with this particular question. SO no I don't think it should be allowed AT ALL!

So... Should parents be able to smack their children (as discipline)?
What do you think?

As in on the face?
If so, then no.

But as for a spanking, then yes.

I know this one kid who is never disciplined at all. He's such a brat.
His parents claim he's an "Indigo child".
But really, the only time he ever listened to anyone was when he yelled at my mother and she got right in his face about it.
It's sad that he listens to my mother but not his own.

I was spanked as a child and if I had not been then i would have been a little trouble-maker.
I'm a rebellious person by nature and my parents made sure I acted otherwise because I did a lot of bad shit as a child.
I learned from being spanked and believe me, my mother tried to go a different way but it never worked. As a matter of fact, it made me worse not to get my ass spanked.

Pain teaches us something. If a stove is hot, are you really gonna go back and touch it again?
Same thing really. If you get spanked for doing something wrong, you'll learn not to do it.

It's worked every time I've used it, so I'm sticking with it.
Spanking that is.

I did get smacked once as a child though, by my aunt. I probably deserved it as I had been crying for 3 hours straight - I shut up afterwards.

Well I mean in general and I have never been spanked, smacked, etc... and I don't think I am a brat... but I also am very close to my parents and I know that they treat me and my sister the same... and I am very very close to my sister, so much so that if someone tried to shoot her or anything like that I would jump in front of the bullet to save her! I guess it depends on family issues too.. doesn't it?

I completely disagree with it, well, unless the child starts to abuse the parent that is, and then it's purely self-defense, but not really even that unless the child is like... a teenager :o It's horrible, and if you do it to your kids, then they'll do it to their friends and maybe even their kids, and so the vicious cycle continues. Plus, once you smack a child, you'll begin to feel less guilty about doing it again, and maybe even doing worse things, which could result in abuse, which would be baaaaad.

Anyway, surely a good parent wouldn't need to smack their child anyway? Smacking your child is like writing 'I'm a bad parent who has to resort to violence' on their forehead x

I totally agree with what your saying! I do think that hitting them on the forehead though is bad sorry!

No, I don't think so.
Kids are different, so are good-natured already and maybe a time-out will work for them.
Other kids, like myself, act too rebellious and won't listen to authority unless I was afraid of the consequences.
Also, it's regardless of parenting skills. I was literally born stubborn (really, I refused to come out of the womb - which is why I had to be pulled out). It's just my nature and it had to be beat out of me. My parents put the fear of God into me and I'm thankful for that because I'm better now.

I can name many situations like this. Oh dear Lord, this one kid KICKED ME right in front of his parents and all they said was "oh, you shouldn't do that" and i lost it. I yelled at them and then the kid and I smacked the little bastard up-side the head three times.
Yeah, well, he was scared shitless of me after that.

And then a woman I know had problems with these two boys who went around ruining property and one day she just grabbed them by their shirt collars and gave'em what-for.
Afterward, they were always nice to her and addressed her properly.

Also, spanking can be used as a form of protection. Again, like if you are going to touch a hot stove, if your parents smack your hand away - are you really gonna go touch it again? Unless you're an idiot that is.

Kids need discipline because a lot of the times they'll start to act out because they crave attention, even if it's negative. Or because they think they can get away with it.

Also, bad kids never think or believe they are bad.


By the way, violence doesn't breed more violence. Because people become afraid of violence.
In my case, I already said I'm rebellious by nature but my dad always said "there's no such thing as a fair fight", so if I had no choice but to fight then i should do what it takes to win and win quickly.
That's exactly what I did, the bitch attacked me first, so i beat her into the ground. She had never been spanked once in her life, her parents gave her anything she wanted, she was spoiled and i wouldn't give her what I wanted. And she started shit, but I finished it.

Then of course, I would always cover for my sister whenever she did something wrong. And she's spoiled and selfish by nature, so that was a mistake. It made her 10x worse because she never got spanked that much.
The ironic thing is that, she's afraid to fight but starts them all the time - why? Because I was always there to finish them for her. After I left school, she never started them again.
She's spoiled. We have the exact same parents, I'm way more mature than she is because I learned from my mistakes because I had no one to clean them up for me.
I got punished and I learned.

It's a life skill. If you do something wrong, you get punished. It may not always be physical, but it will always happen.

And I see no point in hiding that fact as when kids are young, it's not like you can take anything away from them.

neither smack nor spank nor something else. parents already have too many rights and they rather should be limited.

Wow, that's stupid. Children have way more rights than parents.
Hell, it count's as child labor just to have them help with yard work nowadays!

No wonder this generation is so spoiled.
The world has gone downhill ever since the 60s because of thinking like this.

Limited? What, so parents can't even be parents anymore? They can't have a say in raising their own kids?!

if the kids are being brats then its ok to spank or hit em...not on the head tho, i rmeeber iused to fight with my bro aloot in the car and dad turned around and hit us both :p .....we stopped fighting.

Parents definitely shouldn't be able to whack their children, but a little tap on the ass every now and then to shock them wouldn't do much harm.

I don't think they should hit hard enough that it's actually painful, even if it doesn't particularly hurt they can get the message. I was a pretty quiet kid but there were a few times where I got smacked and I don't really remember it being sore. My sister was a lo more rebellious than me but I remember, if my dad had to smack her he would barely touch her but she would still cry and in the future the words 'are ye askin' fer a smacked bum?' seemed to shut her up. I don't think it's the pain that does it so much as the whole 'wtf he hit me' thing.

But I really don't think it's necessary, either. It's entirely possible to discipline a child without using violence it's all in the way you speak to them. I used to watch Supernanny (yes, I know) and it's shocking the way you see mothers cowering in the corner while their four-year-old kid belts them with toys, but sending them to the naughty step and then ignoring them until they behave seems to work fine.