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Zara · 26-07-10, 12:41 PM

Is withholding affection a form of abuse?

What does the abuser get out of the abuse?

Antigone · 26-07-10, 12:46 PM

How would withholding affection be abuse?

Power, control, things like that.

Zara · 26-07-10, 12:49 PM

I dont know, Apparently it can be, but phycological abuse.

Rogan · 26-07-10, 12:54 PM

I suppose if it was done intentionally to cause psychological stress/pain etc. then maybe but some people are just not as affectionate as others.

ThreewayWithJesus · 26-07-10, 09:46 PM

My boyfriend complains that it's torture when I 'excite' him then do nothing about it (Like no HJ, BJ, sex or anything else like that)
I feel power when I do that. It's like I'm in control of whether he gets his sexual desires fulfilled or not. I like it because I am a generally powerless person. Any time I feel in control I feel amazing.

He'd count it as abuse.

Liam · 27-07-10, 05:57 AM

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Originally Posted by ThreewayWithJesus

My boyfriend complains that it's torture when I 'excite' him then do nothing about it (Like no HJ, BJ, sex or anything else like that)
I feel power when I do that. It's like I'm in control of whether he gets his sexual desires fulfilled or not. I like it because I am a generally powerless person. Any time I feel in control I feel amazing.

He'd count it as abuse.

That is abuse. I hate when my girlfriend does that.

July · 27-07-10, 03:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ThreewayWithJesus

My boyfriend complains that it's torture when I 'excite' him then do nothing about it (Like no HJ, BJ, sex or anything else like that)
I feel power when I do that. It's like I'm in control of whether he gets his sexual desires fulfilled or not. I like it because I am a generally powerless person. Any time I feel in control I feel amazing.

He'd count it as abuse.

Haha, sucks for your boyfriend.

TheGuy · 31-07-10, 10:59 PM

Sometimes people aren't so nice to each other. I suppose the limit at which you start calling it "abuse" varies. I would start using that word, when the other person suffers, but is locked into the situation.

For example, this

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Originally Posted by ThreewayWithJesus

I feel power when I do that. It's like I'm in control of whether he gets his sexual desires fulfilled or not. I like it because I am a generally powerless person. Any time I feel in control I feel amazing.

would count as abuse if this guy would be powerless to leave you if he had enough of your games. But frankly, if you choose sex as a way to take control another person, I wonder if you enjoy it otherwise. I mean, it's not only his desires that should be fulfilled.