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I've been noticing when it comes to judging someone by the looks when it comes to deciding if you want to date them(Assuming you're the type to judge on looks alone or judge whether or not you wanna jump into a relationship on looks first) most people tend to determine their worth if they're hot/sexy/attractive/beautiful.

Me on the other hand when I evaluate someone based on their looks I determine their worth on if they're ugly or not. You don't have to be model worthy in looks or visually attractive, you can even be a plain jane you just can't be what I consider is ugly.

But it seems those type of people(The ones who judge based on looks) seem to automatically deem you unworthy if you're not attractive in their eyes.

And I'm wondering when did we turn out this way? And if you think about it wouldn't we have more happy couples if instead of people judging people based on whether their attractive or not people started judging them based on solely whether or not they're an offense to your eyes or not?

I know this is probably something crazy to think about but this randomly popped into my head...

The media heavily influences our perceptions of beauty, worth, and necessity. Look at Hollywood, look at the magazine covers. These are the bodies that America has deemed beautiful. It's hard to argue that growing up with these influences all around us won't have a profound influence on our own perceptions.

Lust, a sin at the very core of our human nature.

You need to be sexually attracted to your mate so you reproduce.

Because it's the easiest way to aknowledge someone. Not everyone is willing to take the time to see what's hidden behind a face, behind a figure.

Suddenly my eyes are open
Everything comes into focus, oh!
We are all illuminated,
Lights are shining on our faces
We are, we are blinded !
We are, we are blinded !

Hell, I'm guilty.

But I still wouldn't get into a proper relationship with an idiot girl even if she was insanely hot.

Looks matter. That's just the way it is. If someone said that looks don't matter at all, one bit, then they're lying.

Physical attraction.
You have to attracted to someone to get in a relationship with, mentally and physicly.

I agree with you and @Pandemonium. @Scwib I agree with you as well and I like how you didn't blame it on NY since most of the tabloids are here.

What other people have said but really I prefer to think of myself as being totally blind when it comes to that. Because, you know, blind people can't see.

Thankfully, the concept of beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I, for one, find many things attractive that most people would be revolted at. I think they're nuts because I can see the beauty for what it really is, they think I'm nuts because it doesn't conform to a certain standard.

It's all the desire to go through the motions of reproduction anyway (read: sex - since that's it's primary function). Attraction serves to purpose of selecting the best mate to reproduce with, so you increase the odds of having healthier and attractive offspring.

I get that, but personally I don't understand it (given the fact I'm not sexually attracted to anyone, but I'm romantically attracted to people - or can be rather). Eh, you'd think with technology, birth control, the desire not to have children, etc. that we would have moved past this point by now because it's not near as important as it once was.
These days we have the luxury of romance rather than just breeding ourselves (or just the motions of it). Yet we continue to do the latter more often despite the fact we don't have to.

Hell I don't know why, you'd think we would have evolved past that point already, I just find it interesting that now we have the time (longer life spans) to get to know someone, to spend our lives with someone we care care about, yet we choose the thing that fades away and focus on it and put all importance on it. It's really quite irrational. Once upon a time it was rational but now it's more of an inconvenience and it makes even less since if you don't even want to have children.

Physical beauty is somethings that's easier to process and to comprehend. it is what it is. When it comes to a personality, there's twists and turns, good and bad, beautiful and ugly, it's contradiction and complexity. It's harder to get a grasp of because it's just more complicated. Being as we are, we're supposed to be that way. Most people can hardly figure out themselves, let alone figure out someone else.

That and personality is also highly subjective. Probably even more-so than beauty. You may look at a person and see an angel in human form based on their deeds, but I may look at that person and see nothing but a self-righteous arrogant asshole who loves praise and attention and does those deeds just to get rewarded. Personality is as subjective as beauty but when it comes to things like media, beauty is simply easier to comprehend.

In that respect, I don't blame them really. It would be very hard to document how good or bad a person is, but it's easy to document physical attractiveness.

So simply put, what you see with your own eyes is easier to understand than actually bothering to get to know a person. You can't see their personality, you have to process it and it's harder to do.

But what the hell do I know, I've never actually felt it myself. *snorts*
I'm just telling you what I've learned through observation. Humans are visual creatures, that's why beauty matters.


However... to decide someones worth based on attractiveness is unforgivable in my humble opinion. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it's an opinion, and no person has the right to devalue another person based on looks.