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Just a little thing I was thinking about the other day, wanted to see what you guys think. These are hypothetical situations, btw:
My girlfriend talks about this guy all the time; how she loves him, how awesome he is, how good he is at what he does, how attractive and sexy he is etc. etc. She has pictures of him in her room that serve no other purpose other than for her aesthetic admiration. He's a celebrity.
My girlfriend talks about this guy all the time; how she loves him, how awesome he is, how good he is at what he does, how attractive and sexy he is etc. etc. She has pictures of him in her room that serve no other purpose other than for her aesthetic admiration. He's a guy we know in real life.
Is the first more socially acceptable than the second? Why?
Should both be equally unacceptable or acceptable? Why?
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The above post is not intentionally rude or offensive.
"If you must mount the gallows, give a jest to the crowd, a coin to the hangman and make the drop with a smile on your lips."
I think we generally accept that, because she doesn't know the celebrity and cant develop a personal relationship with him, it's more of an infantile lust (if that), whereas if she was acting this way over a guy you knew in real life, it's more likely that she could develop a relationship, and the possibility of a relationship is much higher than the chances of being with a celebrity.
EDIT:
My girlfriend lusts after Heath Ledger (She knows he's dead, but still finds him attractive).
If there are pictures involved, the first is 'acceptable', although I'm not crazy over celebrities, and I find people who go Ga ga over Ga Ga to be annoying and narrowminded.
The second is most probably a no, it's just weird.
The first one doesn't seem out of the ordinary to be honest if you look at a large amount of the female teenage population right now.
The second would be insensitive of a girlfriend to do. "With my boyfriend right now but look how amazing this other guy is".
I also find the second really creepy; why would she have loads of pictures of a guy she knows in real life in her room? It's fair enough if they're good friends and they're both in the picture or something but I wouldn't even have pictures of my boy best mate in my room; only my boyfriend.
I think we generally accept that, because she doesn't know the celebrity and cant develop a personal relationship with him, it's more of an infantile lust (if that), whereas if she was acting this way over a guy you knew in real life, it's more likely that she could develop a relationship, and the possibility of a relationship is much higher than the chances of being with a celebrity.
Yeah I think that is true to a certain extent, but I don't think it's enough. Even if you knew with 100% certainty (hypothetically speaking, of course) that she would never develop a relationship with someone you knew personally, would you not still be fairly pissed that she was so attracted to him? Like, it's not that you think they're gonna run off with the guy that's the problem; it's the simple fact that they're so attracted to them, if that makes sense?
^ I'm not going to say it's not because it might be acceptable to some people I guess. In my personal opinion though; I'd be hurt if it was my boyfriend talking about another girl that way. I wouldn't care if he talked about a celebrity like that...even though it isn't typical adult male behaviour I think...
@Jam Like I said, I don't think I personally would be alright with my significant other lusting over some celebrity. (Which is why I wouldn't make such a narrowminded person my girlfriend to begin with).
I'm only saying that IF someone were to be "obsessing" over someone, I'd RATHER it be a celebrity, as opposed to a real person.
In my head it's mostly because I know with utmost certainty that the former is way too superficial, and that the deranged person would come to their sense soon enough.
Besides, I interpreted your question to be an ultimatum. Is it not that?
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