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Ive never really had it easy. My mum was diagnosed with a terminal disease when i was six and died 3 years later when i was 9. When i was 11 my dad remarried as he was depressed and couldnt bare to be alone. My brother played up in rebellion to our new step mother and he eventually was kicked out. Although he was absolutely horrid to her, the punishment was too much. He was never allowed in the house from that day on so i barely saw him. Then my sister was made to feel unwelcome by my step mother and so she rarely returned from uni. I however was too afraid of doing anything wrong or anything i wanted so as not to upset my step mother so she wouldnt kick me out. Every month we'd have the I'm leaving because of one of your children arguments from her to my dad. I never really realised it until now but she was emotionally bullying me and i did love her i really did.

I began seeing the love of my life. I was so lucky. Things began looking up. I was inlove and it was the best feeling. But my step mum didnt like it and threatened that she'd through me out. I locked myself in my room for a whole day then eventually my dad came to speak to me. He told me he was unhappy too. I thought we actually have a chance to be a happy family now. They separated but my step mum blamed it on me and told my step brother who i was closed to i had done it. That was really hard. In some ways i still feel it is my fault.

The happy family part didnt happen. My brother is to messed up with the grief of my mother, almost as if he is mentally ill. My sister is angry all the time.

Believe it not it was all bareable when my boyfriend was there to go to whenever things got tough. But he moved away- 200 miles to be exact. This has thrown me completely. I miss him all the time and my family just dont pay attention to this. They think i'm too young to be inlove. Not only this but i started college this year and i hate it. I have made no friends and i just dont fit. All my old friends dont bother with me and my best friend has moved in with her boyfriend so i barely see her. I just need my friends to help me and i need my boyfriend to have a hug.

He is the one thing in the world that i love and he makes me happy but will all this weighing on my shoulder i just sometimes can't cope. I wish that i was incharge of my future but i am stuck away from the one person who makes me happy for one reason. College and thats one thing i hate.


Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

This isnt even the half of it but i needed an outlet

I know it may sound hard, but with feeling like you don't fit in, try and just talk to a few people, even if it's just asking to borrow something. Eventually, someone will start convosation and there you go.

On the other things, all I can say is stick in there and I wish you good luck

I see the love, I see the hate. I see this world we can make.

I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this. I know what it feels like when it seems the whole world is against you but trust me that really, it's not. The fact that you have a boyfriend will really help yoiu get through this. It's not too young to love someone and adults are wrong when they say you are. Only you know if you're in love or not. Talk to your boyfriend and ask him if you can tell him how you feel. He doesn't have to give great advice or fix everything for you, but maybe just talking about it and sharing it with someone else - someone that you love and trust - will help you cope with it and feel about it.

I only know your family situation from what you've said but it sounds like your step-mom is at fault for what's happened. If it was your fault then she probably would have only blamed you but seeing as she blamed all of you and faught with your Dad about it monthly, then it makes me think that she chose to blame you all because the happy family she had didn't become real. Not because of you, or your sister, or your Dad, or your boyfriend; but because of her.

Long distance relationships are hard but if you love each other and are prepared to make things work then they can. Make a routine with him so that you always know when you're next going to speak to him. Say you'll both be online at a certain time or that he'll call you in the evenings on certain days. Whatever works for both of you. If you can do this then you'll always have something to look forward to and it will make things a lot easier.

As for college, it's important that you try your hardest to be a part of it. Start simply by just talking to one person; the person you sit next to in class maybe. Get to know them better and start hanging out with them if you can. If you become friends then I'm sure they'll introduce you to their friends and if you work at it, you'll have a friendship group that you'll like and feel comfortable in. It's not a certainty and it maight not work the first time you try it but keep at it. Don't give up if it doesn't work first time around.

Alternatively, have you tried joining a club or something. I'm sure your college will have something you can go to, even if at first glance there seems to be nothing you will enjoy. Be brave and take a big leap into starting something. Go along and see how you get on. Give it some time and I'm sure you'll meet loads of new people and have an amazing time. Again, don't worry if it doesn't work first time around but try something else and see if you like that better. Don't feel as though you should only join things that you can already do; start something new and you'll learn a new skill at the same time.

Hope this helps and good luck.

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have you tried counseling, i used to when i was feeling depressed and i began making new hobbies, it became easier to fight back with my depressed mood, now i feel free and without any worries about the world around me just the task at hand

Many colleges have free counselors, who will listen, & offer pro advice, & suggestions.

They offer clubs, for people with varied interests. Dancing classes, as part of PE, or just drop in when you have time, or audit the course. I was just a 'drop-in', until the instructor talked me into signing up for credit!


Band or other music groups, Hi-Fi / Stereo club, radio, golf, archery, running, ... They must have a list for you to get ideas.

Life is not easy for most of us, but you had some early bad breaks. Here is hoping you soon find a smother path.

Check with churches in your area, & visit ones with Young Adult groups. You can also meet with the pastor, or his assistant.

God bless you.

im so sorry for you
im always here to talk if you need anyone
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hi im doing this cuz my girl of my dreams left me last night and cant take it me seeing her with a onther guy so today im doing it you guys think this is a joke but its not this is real my name is niko lee rodriguez i live on 14 matton in springfield mass in down town and im 19 years of age so that said thank you for reading this and remmeber dont get in love ever cuz it hearts realybad.

i dont hav a lot of suggestions, but i do offer my sympathy....
try screaming or munching on some (healthy) food. it dosen't solve any real problems, but it'll make you feel a little better.

Shit happens, being teens, it multiplies by over a quadrillion.. the best way to handle this situation would be to take up some interests.. party, make new friends... learn a new language, go out on a date..
You can't forget your past.. but you don't necessarily have to think about it..