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Old 12-04-11, 05:48 AM   #1
 
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Icon21 I may have been picking the wrong friends for me... for the passed 5 years

I have been with my current group of friends for 3 years; since the start of highschool. Someone considered to be my closest friend has been my friend for around 5 years, since primary school. However due to recent maturing I'm discovering that perhaps my friends aren't the right ones for me. Maybe it's me, but I'm finding them extremely reactive, volatile and people who are like victims (never their fault, can't accept their faults).
Our conversations consist of insults, I was fine with it because we'd all take it as a joke, but now it's really getting to me, my friend of 5 years in particular as he targets the most important and closest person in my life, my dad. Furthermore there's another person who I used to be friends with, but because he flirted with my girlfriend and denied it I'm no longer friends with due to lack of trust. However everyone else is friends with him which makes me feel really awkward.
I'm also in a band with 2 other guys within the friendship group, the drummer is extremely volatile, and I don't even really talk to the bassist much so I'm not sure it's correct to refer to him as a friend. Anyway neither of us have similar music tastes, and I feel as if I'm the only one who can see both the band and the friendship crumbling. Currently I'm in the process of recording a solo demo which I'm intending to send out and I'm scared of the reaction I'll get from everyone.

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Old 12-04-11, 01:08 PM   #2
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Hmm... I think you're right in thinking that you may have been wrong picking out friends..
I think it's just that you said that you're friends since primary school right? So it's just that you matured, and they don't.

I suggest that you talk to your "friends" about what's bothering or annoying you... if they still really care for you, they'll stop what they're doing (insulting your dad, flirting with gf.. etc.)

OR... Just leave them alone, find a better set of friends, and don't ever care about what their reaction will be.
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Well, as everybody grows older, everybody changes, and become closer to new people. I had the same issue, I had a group of friends letting me down, and I solved the problem by opening my horizons and socializing with other people.
I definitely agree with hurrtnsyd about this. You can only either walk away from the situation, or deal with it really.
I hope your situation gets better.
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That's messed up your friend would talk about your dad, fuck your "friends" and ditch there asses...

That's really fucked up, brah. I would beat his ass but I don't advise that...




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Thanks for your replies guys! I confronted one of my closer friends regarding the issue today and got a response of "what do you mean?" After explaining my feelings he still didn't understand, so I didn't pursue it further. I guess I'll be looking into hanging out with different people, but I'm not sure who to hang out with.
Another thing that's still bugging me is the supposed failing band that I'm in- the clash oh musical interests should be a sign of it's futility but again I am the only one who sees that!
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