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Old 28-04-11, 06:08 PM   #1
 
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okay so i moved with my dad last march (3/09/10) and it broke my moms heart....its now a year later and she wants me to move back...but i dont want to..i visited her last weekend, and she asked if i wanted to or not and why. i said no and i said because i loved living with my lil sis and brother. she doesnt have any other children so im always lonely because she is always at bars. so she got offended i guess and started telling me i was a terrible daughter and that my dad wanted nothing to do with me, and that i was a waste of her 14 years. then she said she was going to leave everyone shes ever loved and move to chicago and adopt a little boy because she was done raising girls because she was done raising me. she said that she was going to stop trying to keep a relationship with me. she hates me...i know she does :'(
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She doesn't hate you.. she's just hurt.. even though it's for siblings.. you seriously rejected her and you've been with her all her life, so she feels like you probably hate her and want nothing to do with her and she failed at being a cool mom and crap. Maybe you should try to hang out with her more often?








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i see her every weekend though...and next weekend we are going to chicago for my bday. shes never said that to me before. well she has gotten upset every now and then when i havent called her but shes never said things like that..
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Was she drunk?








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no. we were at target shopping when she asked then in the car driving to my grandmas for 4 hours when she was yelling at me, definately not drunk.
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Ouch! Well, at least this confirms your decision, eh?
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Moms do this, trust me. My mom has occasional anger issues but just a couple days ago she suspected me of doing drugs and drinking alcohol with my friends and then said that I'm "nuts". Can imagine how shitty I felt the rest of that day...

That was a couple days ago and now we are just fine. Time heals all wounds.




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Well mums are like that, especially through our teenage years. I think she loves you, but she is really hurt... Why is she living alone, and you and your siblings with your dad? (it's private so if you don't want to don't answer)

Once when my big sister decided to move out my mum was crying and said that it hurts like a bit of her was teared out... She loves you very much, mothers have their moments, but as Ironfist said "Time heals all wounds" so just give her time... Hope everything will be better soon.
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Moms do this, trust me. My mom has occasional anger issues but just a couple days ago she suspected me of doing drugs and drinking alcohol with my friends and then said that I'm "nuts". Can imagine how shitty I felt the rest of that day...

That was a couple days ago and now we are just fine. Time heals all wounds.
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Well mums are like that, especially through our teenage years. I think she loves you, but she is really hurt... Why is she living alone, and you and your siblings with your dad? (it's private so if you don't want to don't answer)

Once when my big sister decided to move out my mum was crying and said that it hurts like a bit of her was teared out... She loves you very much, mothers have their moments, but as Ironfist said "Time heals all wounds" so just give her time... Hope everything will be better soon.

Wait.

YOUR moms might be "that" way. Most aren't.

The example of 'That' way that the Op is referring to is pretty extreme: Maternal jealousy, selfishness, and mean spiritedness is might be typical for you guys, but 'typically' for you doesn't mean 'typically' or everyone else.

Perhaps your identification with that level of maternal dysfunction is part of the reason you guys also have some other significant issues? Mothers who are wrapped up in themselves and their own emotional experiences don't have much left for their kids, which can cause problems.
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Wait.

YOUR moms might be "that" way. Most aren't.

The example of 'That' way that the Op is referring to is pretty extreme: Maternal jealousy, selfishness, and mean spiritedness is might be typical for you guys, but 'typically' for you doesn't mean 'typically' or everyone else.

Perhaps your identification with that level of maternal dysfunction is part of the reason you guys also have some other significant issues? Mothers who are wrapped up in themselves and their own emotional experiences don't have much left for their kids, which can cause problems.
yes exactly. my mom has been rude her entire life and then the next week or so after her "rude" phases she acted like my best friend. it never passes. shes never been this hateful before so i think me moving was a big change had a big affect, but my counselor now believes she has borderline personality disorder. she got a big medical book and looked up the symptoms and my mom has 8 out of 10 of them. to be diagnosed with it you have to have 6 out of 10. my counselor said that pretty much she is diagnosed with being a bitch for the rest of her life.
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