20-06-11, 03:11 PM
Join Date: May 2011
Location: United States
VENT about immigration and a fraud marriage
I just got back from lunch with my boyfriend. He told me his uncle just got married over the weekend which was a complete surprise to me because he already has a wife.
At first I was really confused at which uncle he was talking about. Then I thought he was just in "love" with two women and decided to marry his mistress or whatever.
This uncle is married and has been married for a very long time (At least 18 years). He lives with his wife and four kids of 18yrs, 16yrs, 2yrs, and a ONE MONTH OLD. Yes, his wife literally just gave birth.
After being really confused about why he got married he told me it was a white, U.S. citizen. His uncle, wife, and two kids are unauthorized immigrants.
It's a fraud marriage, which pisses me off. Not only that, but now he has TWO wives which makes it even more ethically and morally wrong. And the second wife is living with his family.
I'll mention that I have no problem with unauthorized immigrants unless they're committing criminal acts or some stupid sh*t like this.
If an immigrant wants to get married and apply for citizenship because they love that person then fine, but this I cannot tolerate. Marriage is something to take seriously and they're making a joke out of it.
My boyfriend went on to mention that his cousin (the same uncle's son) is planning to get married to his girlfriend this fall so that he can apply for citizenship. Not only did the just turn 18 and graduate from high school, but my personal opinion is they aren't nearly ready for marriage. They don't even have jobs, income, or a place of their own. He wants to get married so he can qualify for financial aid at college (yay, more fraud).
Obviously having two wives is illegal, I'm just wondering how they managed it. Maybe since he married his first wife in another country they have no record of it here in the U.S.
Even still, I can't imagine once he actually tries applying for citizenship that the government won't somehow find out he already has a wife and family. I kind of feel bad for thinking this because it could tear his family apart, but I really hope he gets in trouble for this. (maybe part of that stems from my boyfriends extended family not treating him well at all). Plus he's overly cocky about it. He thinks he and his son will become citizens in a couple months when it reality it takes at least a year to gain residency and a minimum of two years after that THEN you can try applying for citizenship.
They got this idea from my boyfriend and I. We didn't know if we could legally get married (which is something we've wanted to do for a couple of years, we've been together for over 4 years) so a few months ago we talked to a lawyer. They said we could and appearantly it's really easy to get married even if you aren't a legal resident. They then told us if we did he had a very good chance of applying for residency/citizenship (which was something I didn't even know we could do). I wouldn't marry him just so he can have a legal status. We've loved each other for a long time and I've actually decided to hold off on getting married (thanks to many of your insights here on Teen Forumz) until he takes on some more responsibility and matures a little more.
Anyway, my boyfriend's parents appearantly told this to his extended family and now they think they will try it.
It's obvious to me that his uncle hasn't spoken to a lawyer which makes me more hopeful this will fall apart in his face.
I just don't think it's right. It actually disgusts me.
Should I just let it be or should I say something to someone?
HAHA. omg. something else I just realized. His uncle & family just kicked out their father (my boyfriend's grandfather) and now he's living at my boyfriend's parent's house. They appearently got in a fight, I bet this is what it was over. I guess they just wanted the extra room for this woman.