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Old 26-11-11, 01:31 PM   #1
 
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I have been good friends with a girl, for 2 years now(Im a guy) and for the longest time I have liked her immensely. The way she looks beautiful with out make up and when she is sick, and how her laugh is sometimes different, and stuff like that, and we have had pretty intenst conversations about things. Well she is now in a relationship, and I honestly dont think I can go on anymore being just friends with someone I know too well, who wont ever like me in the way I love her. Should I right her a letter telling her how I feel, saying I will always love her, but I cant go on being just friends?
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Old 26-11-11, 01:37 PM   #2
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If its that unbearable, end it. But first I would let her know how you feel so you guys could possibly come up with a solution.








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Old 26-11-11, 01:51 PM   #3

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Rather talk to her... The letter thing can be pretty painful when you've spent hours writing it and then she doesn't feel anything for it.


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Old 26-11-11, 01:58 PM   #4
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If she's truly happy in her relationship, leave her be. Don't try to ruin it, whatever you do.
I understand that it can be unbearable but would you rather have her as just a friend or nothing at all? Just think about it for a while, don't be too quick to make a decision.

Just talk to her about it. Talking is much more effective than writing a letter in my opinion, but whatever you choose to do I'm sure you'll both find a suitable solution.









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I think you should take a shot at keeping your friendship. You might eventually be able to work this way and she might not be with her boyfriend forever, you might amount to something.

She probably really values you as a friend and I can only imagine it would hurt you both to end it. If it becomes too unbearable then maybe you could consider just talking to new people and drifting away slowly. I don't think you should break it off suddenly; it might be harder that way for both of you.









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well i think you should let her be with her boyfriend. don't tell her that you love her while she's in relationship with someone else because it might ruin your relationship. so wait for her to break up then only you tell her your feeling. i'm not hoping that she'll break up, but if she's happy with him, just leave her like that.
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I think you should let her be with her boyfriend for a while. And after they break up be there to help her threw it. And then when she is better you should tell her how u fell.
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I agree. Wait it out. If you leave her you'll both be hurt.

Or maybe just talk to her. It might be awkward, but if it can save your friendship I would say its necessary.




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If she's truly happy in her relationship, leave her be. Don't try to ruin it, whatever you do.
I understand that it can be unbearable but would you rather have her as just a friend or nothing at all? Just think about it for a while, don't be too quick to make a decision.
I agree. Telling her with only making things worse. She's happy in a relationship, so she clearly doesn't feel the same about you.
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Old 01-12-11, 11:20 AM   #10
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Well remember that relationships don't always last forever, you could be in with a chance with it doesn't work out with this other guy for her. You should never end friendship over love, friendship is much more important, at least you still have her in your life.
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