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Old 13-12-11, 09:57 PM   #1
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i am a 16 year old male. I have had no friends basically throughout my life. I am currently a 10th grader and in 9th grade during lunch i would sit in corners or at a table along. I have attempted to make friends, by people ignore me. This year i do the same and eat lunch alone. Everyone seems to ignore me. I have been depressed about this and i done know what to do. I dont want to tell family because they will get upset with me or my siblings will tease me. i have talked to one of my teachers and she told me to just participate in a group that she has going that meets once a week and see what happens. When she said that it did not make it better. I do not feel that people want to help me make friends. I am afraid to talk to my counselor because i know my family would find out. I feel like its affecting me a lot not having friends. If im not at school, im at home without friends. I never do anything fun. I need your advice.
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Old 14-12-11, 06:34 AM   #2
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Are you freak?
Everyone can have friends.

You need to tell something about you!
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Hello there First of all , Don't be afraid of talking to your School-Teachers or Counselor , or your Family ... Maybe your siblings can help you aswell... , Friends are difficult to find indeed , well "True" friends .. That is ! , You need to Socialize more ... Get in Groups , introduce your self to some people , greet others ... Approach others








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Old 14-12-11, 06:52 AM   #4
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Hello there~
Well, there's no magic trick, really. All we could advise you to do is make more and more efforts, because only you can solve this problem of yours. Don't give up because there seems to be no results. With time, I'm sure it'll come!
Not having friends is a terrible feeling to have, since friends are essential for you to evolve, not only as a social human being (that we all are), but also as a person, as a mind that thinks and observes, as an identity you're constantly building up.
It is weird that you actually have no friends at all. Maybe you should work on your confidence first, since you always sit away from everyone at school. Clearly, that doesn't help. You need to work on your person first. Make yourself approachable. To do so, you need to set a couple of goals, and reach out for them. When I say goals, I'm talking about goals directly involving you: your appearance, your way of interacting, your way of thinking. Reinvent yourself. If you think your body needs more attention, go out and work out, eat healthy, sit under the sun for a while. When talking to family, think wisely before opening your mouth. Try to get closer to your family members: surprise them, support them, don't hide away from them.
If you notice you're too shy when other people are around you, try practising at home, in front of a mirror. Look at you, smile at your face, talk to yourself, motivate yourself to not be afraid of others. Tell yourself you can actually get over this situation. Think about the people that are still yet to come in your life!
Go out for walks, see the world, take a sketchbook and sit in a park; draw, write, paint, watch the birds, the lake, the clouds. Look at how other people interact. Run around, be crazy!

Having friends through the internet may help also, but make sure you reach out for your in-real-life mission that is getting to know more people. Eventually you'll make it!
I wish you good luck, my friend.











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Old 14-12-11, 07:37 AM   #5
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First off, you shouldn't be afraid to talk to your councillor. You have rights for all that to be kept confidential so nobody can find out.

Secondly, do you have any hobbies? Maybe join a sports team or something to meet new people and do something fun?
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i have brought this up to 2 teachers. 1 did not have any response. The other said just come to Class Council, so really did nothing to help me. I have also told 2 kids that go to my school. Neither have done anything. I just don't feel that anyone likes me.
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You should try to talk to someone one on one, Don't try and fit in with a group or start talking with a group. Look for someone who you think will have common interests, or people who're more quiet like you, people on their own.








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Old 14-12-11, 11:23 AM   #8
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You know how you say you sit alone at lunch?
Tell ya what to do: Get up, find a group of people who look friendly and fun, be cool about it and ask if you can sit with them. Voila, they'll let you. Barely anybody would refuse; be it out of pity or they might just be friendly people. Doesn't matter which one it is. As long as you sit with them more, they'll get to know you and hopefully like you eventually.
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As mentioned above, just don't be afraid to talk. People appreciate a genuine person. Trust me, you don't have to play any games or pretend to be someone you're not in order to make friends. The key is this: if you treat others with kindness, they will return the favor. If they do not, then they aren't the friends you want, anyway.
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