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Well, I fail at socializing. To the extent that I instinctively actively repel people to prevent them from getting close to me, though people typically find me "interesting". If I do somehow make friends(it's easier for me to express myself online, so most of my friends are there) I tend to become really distant for a multitude of reasons, or I run out of things to talk about, because I share very few common interests with other people. I also have severe trust issues. I'm also constantly aware that my friendships are temporary, and I'm always doing something wrong. I sort of have this built in fail-safe where I distance myself from them before they do it to me. I always avoid meetings with my friends IRL.

There's this girl at work that really seems to like me, and makes no effort to hide it.
she's honestly one of the most attractive girls I've ever met. But I can't help but do and say things to keep her at a distance.


How do I go about being a better friend?

I can't make friends offline.
I completely understand you.

I'm clumsy at socializing, I never get it right.
But here, online, I can really be myself.

I don't know what to tell you, really.
Just, good luck.

Edit: Why don't you ask her for her MSN and chat with her?

I have her FB and I talk to her there. but the other day she told me " you're a lot nicer to me online and when we text. what's going on?" I didn't know what to tell her.

Well, why don't you explain her this you've just posted here in this thread?

I always tell people I suck at Being Me offline

It's no use making friends specially. Be yourself, be open, be ironic, be optimistic. And friends will crop up.

As said before tell her the truth , she'll understand , don't get nervous or think she might think your weird or something its a common fear that gets the best of us , including me , good luck ! at being a good friend.

Just tell her what you're telling us, not word for word though obviously. If she understands, that's great. If not.. well then, there are more opportunities out there

It's better to let her know you're not good talking to people offline, or she might think you're just ignoring her or don't want to talk to her.

As everyone has said, tell her what you've said here. She might be able to help you bring your online self to the real world if you show her this other part of you and tell her you have trouble getting it out. This could be a really good thing for you if you take the chance to try it. Tell her about your fail safe and all that, this way she'll be able to react if you start that up. This could be a lasting friendship if you work at it.

I got the same problem so I'd like some help too not just help for a lucky guy who's got an attractie girl crushing on him. He dint just ask for that. Not that you shouldn't help him wit that. Cuz I need help, && the only girls that ever had a crush on me were fat and or ugly