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Hey guys... I don't know what's going on lately but recently I think I've been feeling depressed. It's a long story but I'm going to trim it down. Basically me and my friend Sarah had been best friends for 2 years in highschool but everything changed in the beginning of last year's summer. We got into an argument, things were said and I thought I was moving. By the end of the summer, I unexpectedly came back; but everything changed. We tried to make up and be friends again; I mean we say we're best friends again but we don't ever act that way anymore. I started to ignore her because she started giving me the cold shoulder.

Around November she mssged me unexpectedly and apologized for everything. I thought we were going to be friends again but she never acts like it.

Then comes New Years, I mssged her saying that I missed her; she said shed been wondering the same thing too. We talked face to face for a brief moment but when the next day hit we both acted like we didn't know each other.

It's really killing me. This feeling, of not being able to talk to her normally like I would anymore. We used to say all sorts of random shit to each other and laugh, now we barely know each other anymore. Can this still be saved? Why the fuck am I feeling so weird. Fuck I hate this.

First off, I know how this feels and it's terrible. So I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this. But, the fact of the matter is that people do change. And events change people. When people change, so do their relationships. That's not a bad thing at all. It is something that you should be cognizant of though. So I'm not sure that you can expect everything to go back to the way it is because of what has happened between you. It sounds like the terms of the relationship has changed. So, As hard as it is, I would say that you might just have to accept that something in the friendship has changed.

However, that doesn't mean that it can't change again but in a better direction this time. Talk to her about it and see what she has to say about the whole situation. Tell her that you miss how it used to be and ask her why she thinks things have changed. You have to communicate with her. Tell her that you wish you could be best friends more than in name again. And see if that helps anything.

Now things aren't going to be the same as they were before. And if they don't get any better, don't let it get you done. It might open up more time for you to find another friend or relationship like that. Either way, A positive can come out of this if you want it to. Just keep your head up and keep pushing forwards and good things will come. Good Luck.

I'm sorry hun. things wont be the same before, talk with her about these feelings, and hope you can at least save the friendship.

How often do you guys see each other person to person?