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Ok, ill try to make this quick.

One of my best friends Mark, who is a senior notorious for going after girls, and our other friend Gabby, a sophomore, went to the movies together this weekend.

Mark has a girlfriend, and I dont know how this happenned, but he ended up cheating on his girlfriend and fingering Gabby while they were there.

I dont know all of the details except that that is what happenned. I trust Gabby and she is a truly good friend and person, though she is kind of...for lack of a better term, adventurous, but not sexually (she was raped when she was younger).

Now, I dont know what to do - Mark is one of my best friends, but he is pissed at everyone for getting pissed at him (over this whole ordeal) and you cant talk to him when hes like this. I understand sometimes that shit just happens, but i mean, COME ON MAN. Hes the kind of guy that will try, and usually succeed to go after almost any girl he wants. Me, definitely not, so we have very different views about all that.

I talked to Gabby first cuz I heard some rumors and I wanted to hear from her first rather than a 3rd party and she downplayed everything and gave the impression that nothing happenned. I figured that wasnt the case (but who would blame her for not wanting it known) so I talked to Mark and he spilled the beans.

I told Gabby I wouldnt talk to anyone about it all, just trying to be a friend, but I figured Mark knew of the rumors too since he was involved. Welp, he didnt, and I feel caught in the middle of a fucked up situation.

2 of my best friends doing shit thats fucked up

Plz no bullshit or trolling, Im just wondering what I should do

simple - this situation actually has nothing to do with you - it is between gabby and mark. you don't have to, and shouldn't, do anything

I know. I told them both that and that I wouldnt hold anything against them because it ISNT any of my business, but it just makes me feel so bad, like Ive been stabbed in the back or something...I dont know how to explain it. I just cant pretend like nothing happenned. Its hard to explain. It just all feels soooo wrong. And I cant take it. I actually got really depressed last night thinking about it like "wtf?" I mean, Mark will literally try anything he can with any girl he gets his hands on so I wasnt surprised it happenned, just like, "really? are kidding me?" *facepalm*

I understand how that situation might make you uncomfortable. maybe it might help if you expressed your concerns to your friends and talk to them about it. maybe iff you understand the "whys" and their feelings about you can accept it better. it may be an awkward conversation for them, so there me no guarantee they'll cooperate, though.

Idk i don't think theres much you can do =/ It's their choices and they both fucked up. He shouldn't have cheated, but she should have known better doing that with him it's not like she's oblivious to the type of guy he is.

I think you just have to wait for it to blow over.
Also, gut feeling about Gabby I always had, confirmed.

I know it sounds like that, Kate, but she really isnt like that. Mark just has...powers. Gabby's never around guys but she does have a bit of a wild side sometimes. I really think it really was just one of those things. But I feel trapped in the middle cuz theiy're two of my best friends and it really killed me. Like, who the fuck would even try that? Obviously she allowed him to do it, but Mark most definitely initiated it.

Meh, i guess. It just rubs me the wrong way, how she's basically lying about it and crap because she's not comfortable with what she did.


But yeah, it'll basically die over time and that.

I didnt think to say, but she is probably the most mature of all my friends, but she is a very in-the-moment type of person a lot of time. Its just hurtful because of my anxiety, and it makes me paranoid of all kinds of things.

Well if she's in the moment then she shouldn't lie about what she did still, if you're going to live like that you have to be honest about it.

And I think with the paranoia I wouldn't worry too much (hah..fuck that made no sense i hate being sick..), you're not the type to do what they did so you shouldn't have any problems with that, and there's no way they can bring you into it and crap. It'll die pretty fast don't worry.

Its just so....wrong, to me. I mean, that day, for no reason, it made me more depressed than when ive had family members die. Fuck this anxiety bullshit at least im actually getting help now.