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Okay, so I posted here probably half a year ago now about how I never got invited anywhere or anything. This includes parties, just gatherings, days out, even just to meet up with a couple of other people. And well, I felt better because I thought perhaps if I changed a little, improve my personality, spoke to a few more people things would change.

I'm going to say I'm fairly popular, I have a lot of friends, I knowa lot of people. All my friends are great and that but I still fail to get invited to literally anything. I get ridiculously easily depressed from seeing content on Facebook and Twitter of people I know, meeting up, going to parties all of that kind of stuff. And the reason why is that I feel I'm missing out massively. Like I literally feel that I'm wasting my life at home every weekend when I could be with my friends having fun. Instead I have to endure sitting at home, seeing these things discussed I.E ''Woo party tonight'' by person X on Twitter etc.

Please don't think I take a passive approach to these things, in hope I get invited to something. Only yesterday did I text over 5 people asking if anyone was going out (a BBQ was supposed to be happening) but I get no replies. I try so hard to be nice to everyone, I chat to a lot of people, I have a few thousand followers on Twitter and I'm getting popular on Youtube so I can't see how I'm dislikeable. But my friends still seem to ignore me when organizing stuff and it's getting me down, especially in this weather when all I want to be is out with them enjoying it but can't.

I have no idea what to do any more, all I want to do is enjoy my teenage life while I can but I can't and feel I'm missing out. What advice do you have?

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What about if you try inviting some friends to places or things to do on weekends?

I do this and stuff rarely happens. I'm scared to hold a party myself in fear no one would even turn up, so I don't feel it's worth it. I feel that I should have to rely on myself to be involved in things, as it's not like any of my friends do, they're simply automatically involved in things.

I've never had a close knit friend group that does everything together, I've always been the odd number in things. Quite literally (when being put into groups years ago, at school)

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Well Idk, why do you have to be into such popular groups? Just try to build personal relationships and then hang out with just them. It doesn't need to be parties and whatnot.

I feel your pain bro. Try showing up uninvited to a party.

keep increasing you friends and eventually people will invite you out but it is important not to dwell on it because it will always seem 10 times worse than it actually is. Try be a bit more open minded if thats possible and try new things that you usually would'nt do and it may help, everyone has a list of things they want to do and well if you tryed some of those things you might meet new people along the way and if you don't well at least you are doing something you enjoy and something that makes you happy.

Turn up uninvited. That's all you have to do. If you say you're popular and you've got great friends then everything's gonna be good.
Whenever some niqqa organizes anything like a party or just a standard chill session and all my friends are invited but I'm not, I show up anyway.
Everyone's gonna be excited to see you, and the people who didn't invite you can't do shit about it because the majority don't mind you being there.

I understand that you've made many friends, but do you feel you may have neglected to make many close,personal relationships?

I think you should worry less about being invited to large gatherings where you could be lonely in a crowd. I know it's easier said than done. You could try being a party crasher, but what if you come off as a jerk? People would be even less likely to invite you.

It's not really like that, I can't see turning up to someone's house would work. These aren't massive parties my friends have it would be awkward. I think I failed so say that the parties are usually organized by someone who I'm not as good friends with and it saddens me that when all of my friends get invited, they don't stop to think about me being left out of fucking everything.

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I get what you mean, I had two best friends a while back and they would do everything together, partner up and go to sleepovers etc I got sick of it..
I recently moved schools because I finished high school and am now in another school's sixth form, I only have one real best friend who I feel proper comfortable around, and recently got invited to a house party without her (by a guy who liked me), everybody was friendly so don't worry about awkwardness.. I wouldn't suggest going uninvited, because it'll make you feel like you don't belong, but don't force entry into their group parties etc either, just be yourself try and talk to them outside of school and maybe eventually they'll invite you to something once they get to know you better