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Old 13-11-16, 04:36 AM   #1
 
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Icon21 Telling my parents I smoke weed.

This is probably going to be long so sorry about that. First about me i'm 17 (18 in 16 days). I live in Melbourne Australia. I've had a very healthy life I live with 2 loving parents and a younger brother. I have extremely high end Asperger's (high end means it's basically not noticeable). I have been smoking weed for over a year now about once a month. I've (sorta) brought the topic of weed up around my parents and my Dad hates it. Mum sorta stays quite but she obviously doesn't like the stuff. I sneak out with a mate and we share a joint every now and then. Go down to the servo (gas station) and buy a heap of food, we chill out talk and go home. Nothing bad as ever come out of it.
Dad used to smoke weed a lot when he was a teenager & his younger brother had an addiction problem that he had to help him get out off. That happened when my Mum was around as well so they have both seen the worst part of weed. Honestly I have kept stuff from my parents in the past and whether it's a month or 6 they end up finding out i've done something.
So i'm sick of lying, going behind their backs and what not. Dad has always told me that if I ever wanted to try weed or anything like that he'd rather get some and have me smoke it out the back then me go out and do it behind their backs but I asked for alcohol the other week for a party and it took 2 hours of convincing and me saying "you said if I asked you'd get me it" for him to actually go buy it for me. And after he got it he kept saying "I feel sick to my stomach about this".
The worst thing is that my Dad just believes all the stuff that was taught to him about weed. All the propaganda that was thrown out by the U.S. i'm sure my Mum does as well. He is so narrow minded and stubborn in his views and this is why i'm scared to tell them about my use. For a start my Dad's a big guy. I don't mean fat I mean really fit. Health freak cares about every cm of food he's putting into his body.
When he gets mad he gets in your face and screams and yells and ever since I remember nothing has scared the living "insert flavoursome word here" out of me. I have memories going back to when I was 7 of my Dad over reacting to something i've done and dragging me by the ear in public and in front of my friends while again getting in my face and yelling at me. I always think of that event and think I was 7 Dad come on I didn't know what I was doing was wrong. I guess I should say I went into a locked part of a building to get someones ball for them because I was small enough to get though a gap.
My Dad's not abusive and I don't want to make it seem that way. He's never hit anyone and he doesn't drink. He's a very nice person when he's not angry but me and him have a had a history of it being hard for us to "get" each other I guess.
So I guess my main worries are.
Over reaction
Narrow/Closed mindedness
Freaking out

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Old 13-11-16, 04:44 PM   #2
 
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so just tell your dad what you think you have to tell.
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You're 18 now, what you do is your business. But if you want to convince them it's not so bad, present them with the facts. Marijuana is not an unhealthy drug, in fact it's been proven to have many benefits, both physically and psychologically. Also, I don't know what your parents thought they were seeing in your uncle, but marijuana is 100% non-addictive.
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You're 18 now, what you do is your business. But if you want to convince them it's not so bad, present them with the facts. Marijuana is not an unhealthy drug, in fact it's been proven to have many benefits, both physically and psychologically. Also, I don't know what your parents thought they were seeing in your uncle, but marijuana is 100% non-addictive.
I'm not going to get into a debate about Cannabis being either good or bad for you as that's an entirely different thread However it's illegal in most countries. Therefore you shouldn't smoke it if the laws of your country say so. However it would be hypocritical for me to say don't do it as I occasionally smoke it.

It's normal and actually a good thing that your parents don't want you to smoke it. Regardless of what some 'pro-weed' people say, the effects of cannabis can be addictive and people can become dependant on them, which can take lead you to using harder drugs. If used often in large doses, mental health issues can form such as Paranoia and Schizophrenia.

I'm pretty sure that you're mum and dad don't want you to be in the same situation that you're uncle was in. Just be honest with them, but don't expect them to instantly agree with you or be supportive about it. You may be 18, but whilst you live with them you kinda have to follow their rules.




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I'm not going to get into a debate about Cannabis being either good or bad for you as that's an entirely different thread
Nice. Preamble a completely factually baseless argument with "I'm not going to argue with you". That'll definitely do the trick. : P
And this is a thread about marijuana, so discussing it's potential harms or benefits is actually pretty on-topic.

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However it's illegal in most countries. Therefore you shouldn't smoke it if the laws of your country say so. However it would be hypocritical for me to say don't do it as I occasionally smoke it.
Not everyone holds the law in high regards. And marijuana use is so rampant, you may as well be telling him not to jaywalk. XD

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It's normal and actually a good thing that your parents don't want you to smoke it. Regardless of what some 'pro-weed' people say, the effects of cannabis can be addictive and people can become dependant on them
Show me the science. Oh wait, you can't. It doesn't exist.
Even with massive amounts of anti-marijuana lobbying, no neuroscientific study from a recognized research lab has ever been able to produce conclusive evidence that THC is an addictive chemical, in fact many studies have concluded the opposite. Anti-marijuana propaganda has long contended this under the banner of dependency, but dependency is not addiction. Addiction is a chemical process, a physical occurrence in the brain. Dependency is merely an emotional barrier. Marijuana can be habit forming, but no more than literally anything else. You could be emotionally dependent on anything from shopping, to church, to television, to ice cream, to socializing, to your childhood teddy bear. It's purely psychosomatic.

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which can take lead you to using harder drugs.
This is also unproven. Studies on this subject have produced very mixed results. Many of the studies suggesting that marijuana use consistently leads to experimentation with harder drugs were funded by anti-marijuana lobbyist groups. On top of which, even many of those studies, found that people who used alcohol regularly were just as at risk. Also that those in a low income bracket, when studied independently of lifestyle factors, were at the highest risk of all, while people in high income brackets were at much lower risk, regardless of marijuana use. Marijuana is also more regularly used in lower income brackets, which could easily throw off the study, and paint marijuana in a more negative light, when related factors are more likely to be the cause. It's like how I could say that diabetes is at higher rates among black people, and conclude that black people are genetically predisposed. However, that may not take into account that black people have higher rates of obesity, and that obesity causes diabetes. You can't just conclude that marijuana leads to harder drug use, because harder drug users tend to have smoked marijuana. They're also more likely to have smoked cigarettes. : P There's just so many other factors.

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If used often in large doses, mental health issues can form such as Paranoia and Schizophrenia.
........ What?................. WHAT? Where did you..... How can you.... I can't even, right now. I can't. PLEASE. SCIENCE. D :
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Haha I knew that would get you going




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You are such manipulative ... ^^
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You are such manipulative ... ^^
It's only manipulation if there's an end-goal. I think he's just afraid to argue with me. ; )
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It's only manipulation if there's an end-goal. I think he's just afraid to argue with me. ; )
I'm not stupid enough to argue with you! I just think it's funny to rile you up.

Still, it doesn't mean you're right though

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I'm not man enough to argue with you!
Fixed that for you. : P

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I just think it's funny to rile you up.
I seem riled?

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Still, it doesn't mean you're right though
That's true. The evidence means I'm right. : )

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There's arguments both sides.
I guess we'll never know, since you're refusing to make them. : P
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