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Old 18-09-17, 02:26 PM   #1
 
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Default Are my parents denying my sexuality?

I'm posting this in the "Family & Friends" section as I feel that portion of the story is the main problem, but if the moderators feel that this post needs to be moved to "Sex & Sexuality", I would have no problem with doing so.

This condundrum started when I first realized that I was pansexual, and when I told my mother. She said I couldn't be because I had not had sex with other people of other genders and/or sexes, despite her lack of experience with sexualities. She did not have a problem with my sexuality per say, but seems to have had a problem with the fact that I brought it up at all.

I waited a couple months before telling my father, and all he responded with was "You don't know who you are yet," but had a reassuring "I still love you no matter who you are."

Is this just standard for a parent or is this something more?
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Old 18-09-17, 05:29 PM   #2
 
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Default Re: Are my parents denying my sexuality?

I'm with your parents. You are just 13. You found somewhere, somehow or however, a definition of your felt sexuality.

But this definition doesn't have to be chiselled into stone. It can change, even if you once are a grown up for ages.

Alsotell your mom that sexuality isn't defined solely by having sex with other people and such physically expierences. I once chatted with an older dude who said he was gay all life. But he also said he never had sex with a man.

So don't worry too much about your sexuality. Whether you really are pan or whether you'll find a completely different definition for your sexuality someday, is absolutely insignificant.

At least in the sense of your thread - as you say, your parents love you anyway. Let's hope that other people, who mean something to you, does it too.
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Thank you for clearing that up for me.
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Old 18-09-17, 06:51 PM   #5
 
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Mate, I've been looking at that sign and been writing a thesis of that sign for two years. I don't need good luck.

I'm gonna insert an edgy quote here, since that's what some do to seem cool. That's how much I already know about puberty.
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