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Old 14-10-11, 10:17 PM   #1
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Icon21 PLEASE HELP! I'M GONNA GET BEAT UP

Ok, for some reason, there's this guy talking trash about me. We have a mutual friend and he told me everything. He said that he told me that because i'm too nice and that i deserved to know that someone was talking trash about me.

The guy is a 5"7 15yr old buff mexican. We're both sophomores

Stuff he said:

He said that I look like a maniac version of crimson chin. (my chin's not even that big)

He doesn't like my face

I look like a homo with piss in my ass

He made fun of how I walk and said that I look like a walking paradox

He's gonna beat me up

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I really do not know why he'd talk trash about me. I'm nice to everyone. I don't swear around people at school. I always have these frost mints and I'd always offer em to people in my class. Even the one's that I didn't know so I can get to know them.
I ALWAYS say hi in the hallways. I always say crappy pick up lines that are guaranteed to make people laugh. I'm 5"6. Skinny cause I got dengue last march. I got cured at level 4. I die at level 5. I'm diabetic. I'm polite and religious. I always try to offer help if I see someone who looks like they need it. I have black hair. My hair style is long sideburns, pointy long back, and bangs.

The way I dress for school (I dress better when i'm out of school)
Grey jeans (always grey, different design)
Shorts (black or white)
Jacket (leather or armani track suit but i don't wear my jacket everyday)
Waist coat/vest
Long sleeves
Shirt
G-shock

When i'm just standing or talking with friends, I tend to finger tut, sometimes normal tutting. But not to show off, i'm still rusty so every chance i get, i try to practice.

I asked people and they said that i'm friendly, I'm shy (not anymore when you get to know me), I'm quiet, and that they'd have no reason to talk trash about me. Even when they first saw me. All of them said that I looked shy.

Everyone knows me as the dancing boy with lots of mints and headphones.

I don't hate. I never hate. It's just not in my nature to hate. I understand that I have some negatives and that everyone's entitled to their own opinion.

I'm just curious as to why that guy would talk trash about me

When my friend told me that, I felt that the whole world just fell on me. I started to get pale. The last thing I wanna do is get into a fight. I'm as harmless as a house fly. Even if I know I can fight back, I wont. Please guys, tell me why someone would hate on me.

Please please please tell me why. And please give me some advice. I admit, i'm scared of getting beat up. I'm freaking out. My friends also told me that the guy kinda looked mean and gangster

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He doesn't like my face
If someone uses reasoning like that to openly criticize you, then I really doubt if it matters how nice you are. They're just being illogical with you, so you need to find a way to manage the situation (ignore him until he leaves you alone, tell an authoritative figure, confront him peacefully, avoid him, antagonize him (not recommended!), etc.). Don't bother reasoning with him/trying to remedy his attitude towards you, he's already made up his mind about you (based on your appearance of all things).

I hope this helps. If things get worse, then ask someone with the power to help you (school administration, probably)! It might be hard 'cuz you're shy, but if you don't do anything then he'll know that you're just going to let him walk all over you.
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Do you think I can try to make friends with him? Maybe I can go up to him, say hi, introduce, shake hands, and be friends? I've been feeling weak ever since I got home. I'm really freaking out about this
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Sounds like he doesn't want to be your friend, so no, you should probably not try to be friends. Just try to find a way to avoid him.
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Hit the gym.
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Look for MMA Trainer. It's effective for self defence. But if he's really a Gangster, just try to stay away from him.
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Old 15-10-11, 04:50 AM   #7
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I'm sorry to hear about what you go going through with him. This guy is bullying you - talking about you behind your back, saying horrible things about you, acting threatening towards you to cause you to be scared - that is wrong, and you definitely don't deserve that. No matter how you appear to others with the way you dress, ect, that is no proper reason to why he should want to hate on you. First of all, you should probably tell someone about what he's been saying and how he's making you feel. You have a right to feel safe at school. Also, this guy is talking about you behind your back, so he obviously doesn't have the guts to say anything to your face, so make sure you always or often walk around with other people at school - bullies don't really tend to approach people who aren't alone, unless they have people too. Just try to avoid him at all costs. However, there is a chance that you could run into him - if he says anything, just ignore him and walk away. Maybe he won't say anything - I've had bullies in the past who have threatened to "sort me out" but have done nothing when I've walked past them and they have seen me. But if he uses physical violence, you have to fight back - you said you know you can. If you don't, you could hurt or badly beat up.

In the meantime though, you need to think about why he could be hating on you. Are you sure he actually is? Maybe someone told him that you said something about him; maybe it is something you have done in the past; maybe he just finds you annoying? Whatever the reason, this is wrong. I really hope you get this sorted. Good luck.








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Old 15-10-11, 12:06 PM   #8
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I never talk about someone behind their backs. I never judge a book by it's cover. I'm new to my school and I really am nice to everyone. When my classmates learned that i'm gonna move to a different school, they said why, you're the nicest guy i've ever met, we need someone like you, and all that stuff.

^^^^ All of that stuff never existed before. I changed ever since I moved here.
I use to be known as the rich kid who gets anything he wants. The kid who brags a lot but makes up for it with the stuff he gives away. A body that's stiff as a tree and can't arm wave for scrap. I've really changed for the better. Nobody even knows that my family's a bit wealthy. I'm humble now. I also try to cheer people up when they can't do something like shoot a ball during p.e.

@ThatPsycho i can't fight back. I said that if someone, meaning somebody else, wanted to beat me up and i know i can fight back, i wouldn't. It's just really not my nature to fight. Tho i will fight back if someone's tries to steal from me, i'm gonna use my taser (yes, i carry one with me everywhere i go just in case)

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Man, I don't know what to say except that you can't be a pacifist. You have to get rid of your unwillingness to fight. I was bullied in the 7th grade by an older guy, and I didn't fight back. I just didn't have any desire to harm another person. And because of this, I was beaten up badly. I realised that I either fight back, or I stand there and take the beating. Cowering and running away definitely isn't a smart option imo. So I manned the fuck up and I got over my unwillingness to fight. Now, whenever somebody wants to act big and tough and try to start something with me, I can bloody them up without feeling the tiniest bit sorry. Or, I can get fucked up badly occasionally, but atleast I know I stood up for myself.
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@iloveclaudia I didn't mean that you actually said something behind someone's back; I meant someone might have lied and said you did. That was just an idea to why he could hate you.

It may not be your nature to fight and you may not want to hurt people, but you still need to fight back and stand up for yourself. There's some girl in the year above me who keeps coming over to me and my friends with her gang and giving us shit - one day she knocked into me and my friend and called my friend a 'slag', so I slapped her on the head. Also, a few days before that, I got into a fight with some girl. I've had shit from both gangs about both incidents, and have been threatened with people saying they were going to "sort me out" or "deal with me", but no one has touched me or used any physical violence. So the point is, sometimes, once you show people that you won't take shit or violence, they might stop. You will probably still get shit about it, but at least you won't have to worry about getting beat up. You don't have to be extreme about it, aggressive or threatening towards people, but if anyone tries to beat you up, you need to fight back. You might not win, but at least you will have fought back. If you just stand there and let yourself be beat up, you will get hurt and it will most likely happen again.








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