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Old 27-01-12, 07:27 AM   #1
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Default Is she just using me?

First of all, I know I am young. I mean, I am 12. But I'm much more mature than you think, so please, don't say "you don't know anything about relationships". Thanks.


So, there's this girl in my class. She hit puberty early - she is "the bad girl" in my class.

What about me? I'm a huge nerd, most people just use me so they can get good grades, etc... I'm very nice, I never use vulgar words or something.... I try to be polite with everyone.

So, I sit with this particular girl in Natural Science and NEVER talked to her, until one day she asked for help on her exam. I NEVER help on exams, but I did. I don't know why, but it was much different. Since that, she regularly asks for help. That's where is my advantage, since I ALWAYS help her and that way I start conversations. Missing a pen? Here is one. Missing your textbook? Here is mine.
Can you describe that to me? Sure.

But apart from that, she never talks to me. Never. When she had to sit with me in Industrial Arts, she made that type of look "Uh! Disgusting". I don't know why, I am very hygienic and I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT VIDEO GAMES 24 / 7 SO YEAH WHAT'S YOUR PROBLEM...

I feel like she is using me, but I still help her. I feel like, if she says to me "Commit suicide" I would. Seriously.

What is your advice... I'm thinking about that everyday and I basically go to school to see her.
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Old 27-01-12, 07:34 AM   #2
 
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I'd say yes she is using you. If she really wanted to be nice to you or be your friend, she'd talk to you reguardless of your school status or what people claim you to be because that's what a true friend does. I think that you should tell her to fuck off & not let her cheat off of you. Seems like she's just using you to make a good grade.
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Well, Yes. She is using you, in a certain sense. It does seem like she only talks to you because you help her out all the time. I would suggest that you stop helping her at every single opportunity that you have. I mean, you can help her out sometimes (just out of being nice) but you shouldn't go way out of your way to help her every single time. Try not to let her take advantage of you which it seems like she is trying to do.








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Yes, she is using you. Try talking to her about stuff not exactly school related. If she totally bows you off, or treats you like crap out of the class room, she is just using you for the help. If that's the case, help her every now and then if you feel like it, but don't go out of your way.
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Well yes, since she gave you a "you're distgusting" look when sitting next to you didn't benefit her. You see, first impressions and gut feelings are always correct ... that is, unless they are wrong. What I am getting at is she might be using you but to be sure, find a way to find out. I suggest starting with simply talking to her when she isn't using you (I suggest when nobody else is around to get her true feelings, otherwise shw may feel peer pressured), then actually (eventually) asking her out on a FRIENDS date. Either way, it sounds like she is in another league so don't try to date her and be crushed if she says no, just hope that her intentions aren't lame and hope that you can be friends (and if she doesnt want to be then she isn't worth it).
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She's obviously using you.

Next time she asks you for help tell her

"Unless you're gonna put out, i aint helpin you with anything. Show me them titties"
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First of all just from your post I can tell you're a very mature person, so ill give you a mature reply.


Get the crap away from her xD
Seriously, you may be mature but you are young and relationships are going to be new. You don't want to waste your time, and new unbroken heart on some chick who's gonna step all over it. New love, is one of the most innocent precious things you can get in life, you can't ever really go back to it. So you have to make sure your first few gfs and that are decent ones. You never really fall out of love with your first love, so do you want to fall for this girl and then always look back at how she treated you and used you? not really. So Id just try and firm up a bit and say no. She's gonna try and use her girly ways to seduce you into helping her still but ya gotta firm up and say no sometimes. If you keep helping her this much and let her use you this much your gonna get infatuated/fall in love with her. And that's a very BAD thing to do with a first love. So just look at it this way, you're not gonna be a jerk for not helping her you're gonna better yourself for a good girl who deserves ya
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Yo man, I know this might sound stupid but hang in there for a bit longer.
One of my best friends was in the same sort of situation with this girl on his bus, she asked him to help her with everything. Studying, homework, classwork in every subject you can think of. We told him she was just using him but guess what? He's fucking one of the hottest girls in school right now.
Obviously you don't want to be doing that right now being so young and all (Or do you? hahaha) but you know, something could develop...
Good luck with whatever you choose to do though
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Hmmm... That used to be my position until my grades dropped and learned how to talk .

My suggestion? Refrain from helping her unless she proves to be a true friend. Certainly help your friends, especially if they're attractive and/or treat you with the respect you deserve. But i would back off, unless you have a genuine interest in her. I think you do, but I also think you're confused. Puberty sucks. I know you're mature, but even to the smartest heads, puberty fucks with your mind. Take a step back like you're doing now, and observe the situation. Then make your decision.

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As everyone has said, you're being used. Explain to the teacher what is going on and ask to have your seat moved. That should solve the problem without you needing to say much to her about it.




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