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Old 31-01-13, 10:29 AM   #1
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Default Ex has moved on.

I thought I was doing well after my recent break up. Even though I dumped him, it hurt me so much. I didn't want to leave him but it had to be done, along with pressure from my mother.
But as the name suggests, he's already moved on. He gave the impression he didn't want to let go, it took him around a month to stop contacting me. We stopped contact after he invited me to hang out with him for the second time. Then I wanted more contact with him because I missed him. But then he changed and he bit my head off. I spoke to him like a friend but he said I was having feelings for him and he was giving out the impression he had moved on already. The last thing I said to him was that I'd 'act like I never existed then'.
Thing is, he's moved on to my friend's ex girlfriend, the guy who I slept with. It hurt my ex a lot and ultimately made him dislike me but then a week later, he liked me again.
Him moving on already has made me think of him more and more and hindering me to move on. I keep worrying that maybe it's not a rebound thing and they do love each other and will be together forever, like I wanted too.

Do you think he's just on the rebound and still has feelings for me? Is it more of a revenge thing against me and that guy?
This is hurting me so much and she's already got a picture of herself and him on her profile. He's holding her and she has her tits out like usual.

It makes me just want to message him with how I really feel, telling him that he's doing it as a revengeful thing and it won't work because she's out of control and slutty; she flirts with every guy and her tits out all the time. If he couldn't trust me, he certainly won't be able to trust her! UGHH!
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I wouldn't get involved if i were you, i don't think that would help the situation.
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Old 31-01-13, 11:40 AM   #3
 
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Just because it's not you he's into anymore doesn't mean every action of his is fueled because of you. Maybe he really likes her, it's not just revenge and it doesn't concern you. You're jealous because you still see him as yours but honestly, leave the poor dude alone. You're always thinking that he's obsessed with you and every breathe he takes is because of you, you need to chill and realize that it's not all about you. It's been awhile since you broke up and he had time to move on. it sucks, it hurts, no doubt. My stomach still just did flips and tightened when my old love of four years (didn't date, he didn't know) that i no longer talked to commented on my fb. It just sucks but he is probably not dating her because of you.








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Old 31-01-13, 12:50 PM   #4
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Default Re: Ex has moved on.

He's going out with my friend's ex girlfriend. I slept with that guy. He hated both me and that guy and so it lead to him and my friends ex girlfriend talking all of a sudden. I know my ex better than you. He's manipulative and this is certainly something he would do.
I don't think he's obsessed with me at all, in fact he's far from. That's a rude accusation to make.
He started seeing another girl a week after the break up, only a couple weeks after he told me that he wanted me to be his wife and to have children with him. You don't move on that quickly after a break up with someone who means that much to you.








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Okay, people I advise you to not answer "Do you think he's just on the rebound and still has feelings for me? Is it more of a revenge thing against me and that guy?" because she won't listen to a thing you say. And apparently no matter our opinions she knows him better, so don't even bother.


Honestly, get over yourself. You think every guy is obsessed with you whether you mean to make it look that way or not, you make a ton of threads and in every thread whether it be ex, friends, guy you're into ffs you think they're obsessed with you. And it's all about youyouyou and every action is about you. And when someone even hints differently you spaz like you just did EVEN if you asked us our opinions on if it's revenge or not.

&& for the record when you're a teen and infatuated you can move on that quick. && just because he's dating someone that was from your past and a sucky part of his history doesn't mean he can't get over the past and see the good in someone now. Things, esp with love have a funny way of working like that. Ive known my boyfriend for years and never saw him as more then a friend, i never thought id like him but all along he liked me without knowing it, then, he grew up, got rid of a silly mohawk i hated :p and now i see him as the most sweet most gorgeous man ever.








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Old 31-01-13, 01:00 PM   #6
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Default Re: Ex has moved on.

Those situations always suck. Often, we've told ourselves "we're okay", "we've moved on"... But its not until one of us "finds someone new" that all of those feelings we thought were okay and gone come back at at us.

Like you said, you know your ex better than any of us possibly can. Use your instinct and your judgment in discerning what this is.

However, I would like to say this: Protect your heart. If it is your ex being spiteful, then he most definitely doesn't deserve you. Even if he is just genuinely moving on... its time for you to do the same. Its hard, its never easy. We care so much; we open up so much; and we pour so much of ourselves into the other person. Moving on almost seems impossible.

But, there is a guy out there who will come into your life - or who knows is already there. And that guy will sweep you off your feet.

Yes, it sucks when things ends. But when something ends, it opens the door to new possibilities. Don't let yourself become doubtful or disappointed because of your ex's actions. They are his and his alone.








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Old 31-01-13, 01:04 PM   #7
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I agree with @David- . New doors always open.

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Old 31-01-13, 01:05 PM   #8
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Default Re: Ex has moved on.

How rude. Get over myself, really? Do you actually know me? Have you taken time out to find out anything about me and how insecure I am? I do not believe every guy is obsessed with me at all. Just because I have the occasional few guy problems doesn't mean I think they're obsessed. I can't believe you said that.








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Old 31-01-13, 01:07 PM   #9
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Default Re: Ex has moved on.

@David, yeah it's got worse and I cried over it today. I thought I was over him but obviously not. His friend said to me he's certainly downgraded and she understood where I was coming from which made me feel better. It' just more painful now. I'll always love him. Lets just hope I'm third time lucky :|








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Old 31-01-13, 01:41 PM   #10
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Default Re: Ex has moved on.

There's a saying, that people will always have a piece of our heart. And I believe its true... That once we've trusted someone and poured enough of ourselves into someone. They have a piece of our heart that we will never be able to get back. And we have that piece of them as well.

How we handle it after a break up is hard as we learn to let go and move on. Don't go looking for a relationship; because at this point its just a rebound for you, I'm going to assume anyways. But, look to move on... a part of you will still love him, sure. But that part will fade over time as someone new comes in.

I'll use a story I've heard before from a family member. They were "in love" with someone all through high school and through most of college. However, they broke up because they started going separate ways. They both married and moved on. But as she tells me, parts of her still ache over the memory and the happiness and the "what ifs". It wasn't until last year when they met for the first time in years that it hit her... she didn't love him anymore. She loved the memory. They had both married, both had children, and had both moved on in their lives.

Its hard to think about and its often heartbreaking. But, I genuinely think you can and will find someone who truly makes you happy.
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