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Old 08-11-17, 02:29 PM   #1
 
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I'm a sophomore in highschool and my friends are having a party this weekend but they decided not to invite me cause I dont drink and they dont like one of my friends...what should I do?
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why would you want to go.. doesn't sound like much of a party if the folks invited are pressured to drink, eh?

ignore it - you and your friend should go do something with each other that weekend
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Drugs suck. Don't fall into the trap that many of my family and friends have fallen into themselves. Don't give in to that kind of pressure. If there so cool that you HAVE to drink in order to be their friend, they aren't that cool anyway.

I liked @blerghh 's suggestion. find another friend to spend the weekend with.
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Only go to parties where you don't feel pressurized. It's not a biggy you don't drink and if these people dislike one of your friends, then who are they to judge?

There will be opportunities to go to parties at some time, but choose your friends well. These people sound clikky to me.

Take your friend and find some place else to enjoy yourselves. A good friend stays with you because they like you and don't judge whether you drink or smoke or whatever, and that is the whole point of friendship: Togetherness.
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Screw 'em. I wouldn't want to go to a party with a-holes like that. They only drink to because they're insecure and want to put on a show anyway. It doesn't make them seem more adult (the opposite in fact). If they want to be losers, let them do so without you and your friend. It doesn't sound like any party I'd want to go to.
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F*CK IT, DON'T GO AND HANG OUT W/ YOUR FRIEND INSTEAD!


I know with situations like these - it's easy to feel FOMO.

But trust me, grabbing a drink and sharing that time with others is a lot more fun when admittance is NOT determined by a group of self-absorbed/judgemental individuals.
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They arnt your friends.
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If they were your friends they would invite you and accepted you as you are. You;ll find real friends and real parties, this one sounds like a childish one if they HAVE to drink. ignore them and stick to your real friend.
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I'm a sophomore in highschool and my friends are having a party this weekend but they decided not to invite me cause I dont drink and they dont like one of my friends...what should I do?
I think what everyone else is telling you is right... up to a point. Yea you shouldn't go becos you weren't invited but that doesn't mean your party friends are assholes. If they know you don't drink may be they didn't invite you out of respect for your choices.

I am the party type and we've not invited ppl to partys for just that reason - they wouldn't enjoy it. The others wanting to drink doesn't make them anything just like you not drinking doesn't make you anything.

If I was having a sleepover with all bi or les girls and it was a hook up party why would I invite a straight girl? Wouldn't make any sense and every one would be uncomfortable.

So sure don't go, but you know these ppl we don't, you should decide for your self if they are assholes for not inviting you.
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Default Re: Not invited to a party because I don't drink

That's strange. I'm an nondrinker and get still invited to such parties. And at most parties I have fun too. I just drink Coke and stuff like that.

Conversely, guests on my 18th birthday party were cautioned that there would be no alcohol. So people who don't have fun at a party without alcohol brought their favorite drinks with them.

Because more and more guests came as invited and almost everyone stayed until the end, I suppose everyone had fun at this party.

Therefore, according to my experience it's quite possible to have fun together if you aren't a strict alcohol fetishist or such.

So in general there's no reason not to invite folks who don't drink (or even drink) anyway. It's just a matter of balance and willingness to tolerate such opposites at a party.
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