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Old 30-10-11, 02:57 PM   #1
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Exclamation So confused....

(this is gonna be a long one)
I dont know who I am
I think I may be bi, but am not certain
I find girls attractive, and fantasise about kissing them, but have never actually had a
Crush on one. I love guys. Lots. I was brought up being
Told that girls marry boys, and so any thoughts I may have had about girls were pushed out of the way.

Most of my friends are female, all straight as far as I know. But we jokingly flirt with each other, not seriously. This is a massive obstacle if I were to come out. Those meaningless flirts would suddenly seem sinister to them, and could ruin out friendship.

To be certain, I feel I need to experiment. I have a boyfriend, and I love him. I couldn't hurt him, but I want to kiss girls bad. I won't dump him to find out

I had my mates over to my house at the weekend,and went on omegle.we decided to troll the horny guys by telling them I was a lesbian. One asked to prove it, and my Mate (who I jokingly flirt with) licked my face. I freaked a bit, but I wouldnt want a guy to lick my face either. I hoped that one of them would have to kiss me for a dare, but it didnt happen

Then theres my other friend, my best friend. She became my friend when I had none, and I feel closest to her because of that. I'm very protective of her, and she used to be depressed. I'm constantly worried something will go wrong in her life, and shell do something stupid. I had a dream last night that she was distraght, more upset than I'd seen her before, and I felt torn apart seeing her like that. I hugged her, and we fell to the ground. I just held her for the rest of my dream, however the main Emotion in my dream was worry and grief for her, so I can't determine if it was romantic or just friendly.
(all my friends have bfs)

Yeah, so I'm in a mess. Any advice?
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Old 01-11-11, 02:46 PM   #2
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so basically, do I tell my friends that I'm bi/bi curious, even if it could be just a phase?
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Old 02-11-11, 06:22 AM   #3
 
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You can relax. You sound like every 14 y/o girl I ever knew. You're entirely normal. If you want to experiment and have the opportunity then ok, check it out. Every girl I know except one says she did.

Your bf is probably your age or a year or two older so he may have a problem with it. When guys get a little older (and some sexual experience) they understand more and most are ok with their gfs experimenting as long as it doesn't threaten their relationship with their gfs.

It's common to see girls kissing each other at parties and mostly it's in fun, so don't freak if one of your friends wants to kiss you sometime. It's a good way to check out your feelings and see if you want to go any farther with that person. If you want to cuddle with one of your friends you don't have to tell anyone, it's between you and her and if you want a short term thing with a girl it's your business and nobody else's.




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Old 02-11-11, 06:40 AM   #4
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oh well , Its the age its a phase of curiosity ^_^ i wouldnt recomment telling your friends , give it some time...and what cameron said








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I agree with what has been said above, it may just be a phase in your life. Everyone goes through the curious phase in life, som stay attracted to the same sex some don't but what is best for you is that if you do decide to expriment then it is what you really want.

It is natural for people to experiment with the same sex but just take it slowly and don't force anyone into anything








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Don't think your bi, sounds more like your, straight but curious, it's normal.




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i went through the same thing at that age and my best friend at the time felt the same so we experimented together. it was fun but i prefer guys. there are times i see some really pretty girls and might have a sexual fantasy or something, but it's never anything more than just a sexual attraction. i'm still flirty with girls and stuff but no one thinks anything about it, i'm flirty with everyone.

you're gonna keep wondering until you try it, so just hint around the idea to your boyfriend and see what he thinks about it.
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just like what they said
dont think you bi
its natural for people to experiment
and im sure you will pass this situttion
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Default Re: So confused....

Well... I've read everything and despite there were some moments where I didn't understand anything, I understood the global subject and what you feel.
If I could give one, and only one advice ! It is beware !
It's gonna make the subject of one of my future post but I will summarise you my story. I lived a relationship with a boy during 7 months, I thought I was gay and I thought hard as iron that this would never change ! I was wrong !
I experimented and what I can say after this experience is "It's true, I like sucking", I won't deny it whereas it's true. But that's all ! I experimented the sodomy and many other things but I came back on my opinion ! ^^ I'm not gay ! It is not because I like sucking and kissing boys that I'm gay !
But I made the mistake to say to everyone I was gay, what has done the turn of my town and the other towns around, so that now this fact following me everywhere and rots my life. So, be sure of your feelings on a period to at least 2 years before announcing around you you might be lesbian.
Because for me now, it prevents me to live a love life blossomed like I would like.

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Gay = Sexual , Physical , Mental , Romantic ALL the way , towards the same sex.
Bisexyal = ^ the same ... In both sex.


Puberty and curiosity just gives us the impression we have (some) of those attractions ... But we need to give it time , and realize in the end If it was a phase ... cos feeling only sexual attracted wont make you Gay or Bi , Its a phase that all pass in Puberty xD its natural and Normal . If you cant Fall in Love and have Real feelings for the same Sex ... you are not ! BUT remember NOONE can tell you what you are , Not me nor any other member of this forum , YOU ON YOUR OWN will realize that and find out Noone can tell , only you !


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