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Not if you want someone who has hope of building a future with. Like getting with a guy who has work ethic and wants to make a lot of money in the future as opposed to wannabe gangsta who wants to sit n his ass only getting up to run away when it's time to pay child support.
It's about having a potential future. Why get with someone who's just going to be a lazy-ass?
You look for potential.

Because I don't want someone who sits on his ass all day. I need some form of security because I know I can't take care of myself properly. It's not about material things. It's what's about is going to better for our future if we wanna stay together.
They could have a junk car, a shitty apartment, and be in-between jobs for all I care. So long as they don't always wanna be like and they are working hard to get out of that then the potential is all right there.

It's not about what you have, it's about what you want to have. You can build a future together while still having security.

I never said sole. Never did I say that. I said major.


But, fuck it, none of these things is the point.
The point is, no one has any damn manors anymore, women are generally bitches most the time, and men are lazy-asses.
And, so you don't get horrible confused like most people do, I'm speaking in generics.

I'm only going by what I've heard and read. I'm not trying to say that everyone enters a relationship for those reasons, but there is a large portion of people that do. I didn't mean to make a huge generalisation...I'm just poor at putting my point(s) across.

It's good to see that you go for a nice bloke. I'd go as far as saying that you're one of the few girls I "know" that do that.

More of a dominating role than a woman nonetheless..which makes me stick to my point. In this day and age the majority of women don't want this. It just hasn't proven to be a success in most cases.

Totally agree with you about looking for potential though ^

Just saw this now. Very valid point.

That says a lot about our society as a whole really. Honestly, I don't know many people personally who actually would be as material and selfish to actually do something like that. I am aware it happens though (: but they're just idiots who will come to realise that money doesn't actually make people entirely happy and in the end crave a loving relationship where someone appreciates them for who they are.

Which means more men end up being unhappy because it's going against what they are more biologically inclined to do.
Men generally want to take on leadership, there's nothing wrong with that.

That's where you wrong, once upon a time there was a lower divorce rate when men used to make more decisions.
And that is because women want the dominating role. It's the same damn thing the men want.

It's either one way or the other. Someone always has the dominate role, even if it's just so much as anytime the family goes somewhere then one is always driving. Or whatever. It can be minuscule, but someone always wears the pants in the family.


Nevertheless, again, this isn't the point.

It'll always be a struggle over who wears the pants in the relationship. Either men will feel like they're being emasculated or women will complain about men having a superior role. Its a lose/lose situation really.

Also, there was a lower rate of divorce because it was severely frowned upon and also women are far better educated these days. They have just as good careers as men and that wasn't always the case. So why would a woman leave her husband to go work in some shitty job and live in bad conditions?

I think we should end this now haha. Go back to the original topic :p or we'll be here all day.