If you haven't guessed it, you don't know me very well.
Okay, first things first. I am a sub. Within the BDSM context, I am a submissive.
Second of all, look at how I type. I always capitalize "I" and any name I'm using. I don't purposely use lower-case "I" ever. Esp. when referring to myself.
What does this mean? Well in the BDSM world, subs will often use lower cases when talking about themselves and upper cases when referring to their Master. Even I use an upper case "M" for Master. It gives it importance. Using lower cases shows a submissive status.
Also using "this girl" or "His pet" or "my Masters girl" or anything of that nature shows submission by showing you willingly belong to someone else.
Please note, I do not do this. I capitalize Master to show it's an important status to me. To show that I will have the utmost respect (despite my bratty nature) for my future Master.
Now, onto the meat of this rant. How is the above relevant? Well some assholes out there like to accuse people like me of not being a "true sub" or "true slave".
Accusing me of the latter would be accurate in more ways than one. No matter what terms you use for you relationship... fact of the matter is, you're not really a slave. You entered into a contract willingly, so you're not technically a slave. You can act like a slave, but it's still something you want and it wasn't forced upon you.
It's also accurate as i am not a
slave. I am a submissive
servant. Each couple or group or individual decides for themselves what the definition of a submissive, slave, pet and servant are. The same can be said for Dominant, Master, Daddy/Mommy, and Mistress are.
It's a matter of an opinion and there simply is no hard rule. Esp. when it comes to being in a Dominant position. It depends on opinion. It's a sliding scale, that's all there is to it.
For example, you could be the best Alpha Male around but treat me like a fucking cum dump and you're nothing more than a slime ball to me and I'll see you as a lesser being rather than a being worthy of my submission.
Meanwhile, hey others might be into getting treated like a cum dump and may see that guy as a fucking god on Earth.
It depends. What pisses me off, so fucking much, is when people say I'm not a real sub.
Wanna know something? Fuck you you limp dick little bastards! Don't get you're undies in a twist because I don't swoon at the site of your obviously fake porn-cock.
Subs have free will, wants, desires, rules, likes, and dislikes just like everyone else has. You saying we have no rights is just your excuse to be an abusive bastard and get off on it. Sadly, that's the downside to BDSM, you'll sometimes get people who want nothing more than to abuse others and get off on it - not realizing that that isn't how it works. Abuse to a sub is no different than abuse on a no-sub.
Dumbasses.
Finally, I am a servant. I make the difference between that and a slave and a submissive.
To me, a slave listens to their Master(s) and acts more like a slave by obeying commands. To me, a servant is one who submits to another and then looks out for their best interest, even if that means going against what they want in favor of what they need. A slave exists for their Master whereas a servant exists to help their Master.
Now this is just what I go by. Why? Because I've always been like that. Some say it's the Masters job to protect their submissive/slave/servant. For me, it's the other way around. Or more like it's mutual protection.
In my case it's like once I get attached emotionally to someone, I'd move the Heavens and the Earth for them if that's what it took to make them happy.
A submissive acknowledges the superiority of another. Nothing more really. And in the case of BDSM, most give into that but some want to fight in order to lose (much like myself). They sense the clear superiority in others but insist on seeing how worthy the other is. I've also always been like that. And to this day I've never met a guy who has found a way to prove his superiority over me.
Believe me, if I had then I'd be married by now. Even if that meant using drugs and driving to Las Vegas.
So i really fucking hate it when people think that because I have limits that most consider to be common in the BDSM world that I'm not a "true sub". This can be anything from whips to anal or even just intercourse. By not wanting it I'm demonstrating free will and personal rules and some like to believe this doesn't make me a "true sub". Which is total bullshit. So I'm not into guys who ask me right off the bat if I have a cam and who post their cocks on their profile or otherwise expose themselves for everyone to see.
That just tells me you're not interested in anything serious.
And some guys act like just because I'm a sub that I shouldn't be allowed to refuse their advances. Even when they state the only reason they're interested is because I have a great rack. Which, you know, is true (that I have a great rack) but that's no valid reason to be into me for just that reason. Fair enough if you're attracted to girls with larger boobs but I'm not a slab of meat to be used as your bisexual cum dump (yes, that's relevant - because most of these freaks want more than one girl for obvious reasons).
Just ugh! The nerve of some people!
This is exactly why I don't classify myself as a slave. Slaves get more issues like this from jerks spewing off to them about this shit. I feel for them, I really do. Going around insulting my sisters and brothers like that. And worse, accusing me of being a Dom! I am not a Dom, Domme, Master, Mistress, or anything of the sort (even if I do occasonally refer to myself in a masculine way).
I'm simply not built to be the leader in any sort of relationship. I'm not a leader, I'm not even a follower. But I am most certainly not a leader, an aggressor, or anything or the sort. And how insulting you compare me to anything more masculine than a Tomboy!
I can't begin to describe my frustration. And just for the record, BDSM is much more than a perversion to me. So keep in mind I'm not bitching about perversions, I'm bitching about people who obviously don't know shit about the lifestyle. For me it's about emotional intimacy and trust and relying on someone strong but to also be a supporter and caretaker for that person.
Because that's how I personally believe a woman should be. And I'm sure you'll bitch about that in response. But that's just me and how I am. I wasn't raised to think this way. Not exactly at least.
I get so sick and tired of the misunderstandings.
But in better news, this article shows exactly what I think:
Read here!
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