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I have just had enough of my brother! He's 19 coming 20 and he just doesn't give a toss about me or anyone else! He never has and never will, I just keep waiting and waiting for the day the wakes up and is suddenly one of those "Nice" brothers everyone else has, a brother which cares when your upset or hurt or anything else that might require him to show some emotion towards his family. He has never cared when I've been hurt, he never cared when I've been happy about something, it's always ME trying to get him to listen or acknowledge what's happening to the people around him and he just shrugs me off and gives me a look like I'm crazy for caring. When we were smaller, my sister fell over and got a deep cut in her knee, instead of calling our parents to help he ran around screaming his head off that it wasn't his fault! Just today in fact, I asked him to take down a plate with him when he was finished with it and he said he wouldn't so I took it down with me, while carrying around six other things, slipped and fell down half of the stairs and instead of a "Are you alright?", "Are you hurt?" or even any concern for me at all, I got a "I told you so". He said " God Bridie, I told you so, your so god damn stupid" and he walked off. I Have a HUGE bruise on the back of my head from where it hit the stairs and a scrape down my back and he doesn't give a shit about me. He will never care and he never has. I've just given up. He can go live a life where he doesn't care for anyone, but I've certainly given up caring about what he does. He's said so many hurtful things to me in my life and I just can't wait untill he moves out.

Michael~

I know how horrible it feels like..my brother doesn't care about me either (in the getting hurt issue)...and it's oki 4 me...I don't care anyway...cause my parents would!my relationship w/ my brother isn't strong..like we've known each others in a couple of years..we don't talk much...and it's oki 4 me as long as I have other ppl who'd take his place and his duties towards me!!he doesn't know me well...that's why he doesn't care about me...we might stay in the same room for more than 3 hours and none of us say a word!! but I'm sure u're case is different..maybe u should talk to him about it...and ask him to treat u as he want to be treated..I don't deny that brothers can sometimes be annoying..but still he's ur brother..all u can do is withstanding!!

That's terrible. I'm sorry you have to go through that. However, what you said in the title might not be true at all. My brother used to be the same way with me. And then one year he just started being nice to me. He matured and he realized that you shouldn't push your family away or you might not have anybody there for you someday. Maybe he hasn't reached that realization yet.Wait for him to mature a little bit more before you make that judgment. That's a major possibility. ANother possibility, is that he does care about you and is either afraid to show it or doesn't know how to show it. Either way he'll come around eventually. So don't get too pessimistic about it. You never know.

Yeah, your probably right. It's just so hard to wait. He's been like this since I can remember and I feel like I'm just wasting my time trying to get on a good side of his that just isn't there.

Michael~

Yeah. I know how you feel. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do about it. It sounds like you're doing everything you can. And I mean, you can't force him to care about you. Hopefully, he'll come around soon enough though.

Easier Said than done. He would never listen, he'd just end up twisting the conversation and make me feel like an idiot. Again. I'm stuck in the house with him for 4-5 days because everyone else has gone down to the old house to clean and I wasn't feeling well on the day of the journey.
I really don't know how to cope with his withering looks and snide, bitchy comments towards me.

Michael~