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Really, you lost respect for me?!

Basically my friend (from the internet) found out about my past, if you didn't know in my past i started smoking at the age of 11, i drank at the age of 11 and i also did drugs at 11 (weed cocaine and escasty). I did this because my nan died, i was depressed and i was bullied, so i turned to drink drugs and smoking, i fell in a bad crowd.

All this is in my past now, well most of it, but my friend just turned wrong to me and said "I've lost all respect for you now" i told him why i did this and he said i take it back i didn't know, HE CAN PASS JUDGEMENT OVER SOEMTHING HE KNOWS NOTHING ABOUT!? how dare he and then he thinks i will forgive him?! He lost all respect for me because of my past.

I talk openly about my past to anyone, i share my experiences even though i'm nto proud of what i have done BUT i'll talk openly about what i went through but for some one to say they lsot respect for me, it's pathetic.

Well you know what my past is a part of me, and if anyone else has a problem with me, please enlighten me because i HATE people who think it's ok to pass judgement over somethign they know nothing about.

i think your friend may not have been close enough to you or care enough to understand. insteadd of losing respect instantly i believe your friend should have first tried to find out why you did what you did and what your reasons were before freaking out. i respect your decision for what you did, everybody gets lost at one point and dont know what else to do. its a relief just like cutting yourself. but its your past now, just a scar . I'm glad to hear you at least aren't doing that now. I hope for the best with you

Thank you, Dom.

anytime, i just see there's usually a reason for something sooooo yeah

To be perfectly honest Sarah, when I first found out about your past I was quite shocked; you've never given me the impression that you were that type of person, so to find out what you had done is a bit of a surprise. However, I never judged you, because unlike a lot of people you turned your back away from all that and decided to strive for a better future for yourself. In a way you're far stronger than you could have ever been without those experiences, and for that I'm quite proud of you as a friend. As far as I'm concerned you're still the friendly, intelligent, lovable Sarah you have been (and hopefully always will be)!

Unless your friend is a complete and utter dweeb then perhaps the initial shock got the better of him and clouded his judgement? I would hope that is the case, but I can understand why you are very angry with him.

Thanks Kirk..
To be honest, i think people judge to quickly, i hate soceity.

Forgive him. Like, we all make mistakes in what we do and say. Just like you made mistakes with the drug and drink, he made mistakes with what he said. Give him a break and cut him some slack- or make him feel a bit guilty first

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Well that sucks :/

I never knew about any of that and I haven't changed my opinion of you, you still seem lovely to me I'd say maybe he was a bit taken aback that you'd done that?

I'm not going to cut him any slack, nor am i going to make him feel guilty first, that's just immature, IMO. What i will do is calm myself down before even trying to talk to him, but they'll always be a part of him which has lost respect for me.

Also, thanks Lauren

It's not who you were, it's who you ARE

and if who you ARE was a generally shitty person and who you ARE now is a great person, i think it makes it all the more spectacular.