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So this isn't really like a mad rant or help rant or anything just it's been, *counts* ten months since I broke up with my ex. And ive always been very careful to not mention other guys, dont put guys in my statuses, when we talk avoid any guy/crush whatever talk. which was really hard a few times when I had crushes, like.. two times. Especially when the first shortly after we broke up hurt me really bad and i was suicidal... but anyways, still ten months and I still don't tell him about guys because I know he still likes me, he's still single and has been, and i mean who ever really stops being jealous/hurt by a ex moving on. So I stillll don't tell him but it gets hard when someone makes me happy or something and I got to try and not indicate that it was a guy >.< I don't think he suspects though ever, (I'm not even in a relationship or going to be in one) I think he kinda thinks im not going to date for quite awhile like i told him when we were broken up that i was sick of dating anyone. It'd still hurt him really badly because we were super close best friends for two months, then dated for 11, and i mean we were SO close. We knew everything about each other which actually is one of the reasons it ended >.< so it'd hurt him realllly bad cause i broke his heart when he was madly in love with me and he didn't see it coming at all.. plus i kinda abused him the last two months of the relationship unintentionally.. but yeahhh. it makes it difficult to hide it and that's basically what the rant about is.
Anyone else done this to spare hurting them?
Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.
Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3
I see what you mean, I do.. but i think it's pretty clear to him that there isn't one.. =/ we've talked about it in stuff.
Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.
Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3
I think you should confide it in him. I've done it once and well, it didn't turn out well. The girl and I totally lost our friendship, and it wasn't pretty. But inevitably, tis your call.
"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot
I see what you mean, I do.. but i think it's pretty clear to him that there isn't one.. =/ we've talked about it in stuff.
You THINK it's clear, or you know? Because that line can get pretty blurred when it comes to relationships.
If he knows you've moved on and there's no chance of getting back together, he should expect to see you with other guys which yeah, it would still hurt him to see, but at least it wouldn't feel like a betrayal.
If you only think he knows there's no chance, he may still be harboring the idea that if he keeps trying, eventually you might go back to him, in which if you slip up or he finds out about other guys some other way, he could feel devastated, betrayed and it has a greater possibility of ruining your friendship.
I think you should lay it out straight to him. First, that you're not interested in anything more than friendship with him, and then about seeing other guys. If you don't, there's always the risk of him finding out through someone else and I think if he's your friend, he'd much rather hear it from you than from some gossip.
Well, I know he knows there's no chance. We've talked about it quite a few times and it's clear as day. To him. We know each other insanely well too, so it's not like he just wonders how i act or think and stuff like that. He doesn't think I'm going to get with any guys simply because I told him I don't want a relationship atm. or for the past ten months... our relationship really killed my look on having crushes >.< And I matured a lot over this last year, so yeah. Ill probably slip in somewhere about other guys so he gets the idea. I mean it's not even a big deal because i don't want to date nor do I like anyone, so it's not like hes going to find out or something like that. It's just I can't be like "Oh i met this cute guy and etc etc" like I might with my other friends, or if some guy is flirting i won't tell him when Ill tell others. I just don't want to hurt him. But you both brought up good points. Like i said it was more so just a rant that it can be a hassle
But thank you both.
Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.
Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3
The guy likes the girl, but the girl has no intention of being more than friends.
He asks her out, she doesn't want to be mean so she says "I don't think we're ready to be more than friends, I do like you a lot but at the moment I just want to be friends "
That message is only going to give the guy false hope, he's going to think to himself: "Well okay, AT THE MOMENT she doesn't want to be more than friends, but that could change with time!"
Today's Toppers
Still not telling Ex about guys in my life.
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