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I am losing erin, The one girl who I ever let get close to me, and the one girl who ever realy meant anything to me. I met her 5 years ago,and ever sence then, even through the two years I didnt have any contact with her when grandpa got sick and we quit camping, i' always thought about her, and I always had a thing for her. I know things about her nobody else does, and her the same for me. The one person I can talk to about anything, and the one girl who ever gave me a chance. I gave everything I had to this girl, and I'm losing her, because thats how my life is, I get somthing good, and lose it as fast as it came. at least I know i'm going to. She told me a while back that she wasn't ready to date again, and I was the best thing she had, nobody's treated her this good before etc, but she needed to get over her ex because it was to much right now. I told her i'll still be here when shes ready, and I'll always love her (which I will, I honestly could see my self with her in 30-40 years) but I know its over because I'm worthless and I know by the time she's ready, I'll still love her justas much, but somebody who can see her more or give her more will come along, and I'll be right back where I started. No matter how many times I tell myself I wont, and people tell me I wont, and that she'll give me another chance, I'm still afraid I'll lose her. And honestly, I don't know what I'll do if I lose her.

I know how hard it is ive been there but you have to stop making her the center of your life or you will be miserable forever.. Yeah, honestly I could see myself with him for the rest of my life but now I actually like someone else and I'm starting to see that with him as well, and it's growing more and more. So.. just because we see ourselves with that person, doesn't mean we can't feel that way with other people as well. It sucks but it does... we have to try and stop obsessing over this one person cause it just makes us miserable.

If you wanna talk you can IM me ill do better in private advice. Ive been off lately so my advice has been sucking >.<

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3

Just like Kate said, you need to shift the focus of your life away from her.

This isn't a bad thing at all, it'll just set you up for the break in the link when/if it happens.

Good luck, as Kate said, you can also message me if you want a male's insight aswell as a females, as they differ.

First of all, before you take the advice of Kate you should completely ignore it and take my advice.

Before you start trying to get over her, you need to do something very important, and that is to give absolutely everything and go out with a bang. Tell her it's now or never, because you have a life to live. Get poetic, and tell her how much you love her. Use words like ethereal and beautiful to describe her and really, just let her know exactly how deeply you care.

If this fails, move on. Moving on from problems is best done by thinking about your problem with the most concentration humanly possible and then arriving at the conclusion that it has no cosmic importance and really means very little.

thanks for the advice, and I think I'm going to wait for her to make own decision,she all ready knows how I feel and how much I care about her,and I tell her every day. I told she can have how ever long she needs, and I was there for her. And I promised I wouldnt give up on her unless she wanted me to let her go, and if that's what she wanted, I doubt we'd still be this close.

Second, I'm not saying you are,but please don't hate on Kate untill you've gotten to know her. I'm not saying you are, just that that seemed a little harsh.

Thanks