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I'm having surgery on Monday. They have to break my foot and realign the bone. That I'm okay with. I've done it before. It's painful and I'll hate it, but it's fine.
What I need to rant about is, I planned on spending today with my boyfriend. Normally yesterday we would have been together, but his friend needed him. I'm okay with that. We were going to have all day today. My parents would be out all day, and we'd have the house to ourselves to just relax, right? He wakes up late. Then falls back asleep. I end up getting him at 2. We get breakfast, and then have to go to his family's dinner at 4. We have 0 time alone all day. I knew about the dinner, which I was fine with. I just wish that he didn't wake up so late, or at least try to get up. I know him, he's lazy when he wakes up. This wasn't because he had not slept last night. He went to bed early.

So he figured out I was upset, because I wanted the day with him. Now, he's taking care of me all week after my surgery because I'll be immobile and my parents work, so he didn't see the issue. Here's the issue. Yes, I'll spend a week with him, but I'll be in extreme pain. We won't get to do anything other than sit around. Today was going to be my last day in about a month and a half to do anything nice with him, and he slept through it. I woke up extra early so we could have an early start, and I spent hours on the computer killing time waiting for him to wake up and reply to my texts. When I explained this, he then thinks I'm upset about today and yesterday when he spent the afternoon with his friend. I don't care about yesterday, his friend deserves some time with him. It was today I was pissed/upset about, because he has work tomorrow so I won't see him. Plus, I won't be able to drive, so I probably won't be seeing him after this week for a month unless he gets a ride somehow. I just kinda wanted today to be special, and I kinda got that vibe from him too when he said he couldn't wait to spend the whole day with me.

Ehh, I'm not mad at him. I'm mad at the situation. And I feel bad that he feels bad, when I don't want him to feel bad.
Wow, I feel needy and bitchy. But, that's what rants are for right?

Ahh my boyfriend used to do that a lot :/ I mean it was never my last time to hang with him for awhile like you but he would promise to come over on the weekend, I'd wake up early and get my hopes up, and he wouldn't show up until like 4. I empathize with you.

Men/boys are fickle creatures.

They want to do what they want and can never understand our emotions.

The best thing for you to do, instead of being upset, is be independent and assertive.

Next time he wants to hang out, don't reply straight away, make other plans, it seems stupid and counter-intuitive but men have this tendency, even with their girlfriends to treat them coldly if they think their girlfriend is too available.

Say things in a playful way like "I like men who are on time and satisfy my needs as well as their own. I wonder if you're a man like that".

I only know this from years of behavioural research :/

^ Yep, sounds about right.
But that's probably why i have been single for __ years.

I'm speaking for the entire cast of lazy, ignorant men here to say: we're sorry!