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For those of you who haven't heard about this, I'll lay it out again. My friend Abigail had stole something VERY INSIGNIFIGANT a while back. Or should I say somone else did and gave it to her knowing it was stolen. The point is I didn't like the idea the she would steal something from me, because she was me friend.Since then I've seen little signs about her telling me things i didn't want to know. Take the other day when I saw her and her group sitting down at breakfast near me, I could hear them cussing and talking trash about other students. To me that's a bad sign, though I haven't told her.

And some other things have been going on with her lately. I recently got a new IPOD Touch for Christmas last year, and she's been asking to use it. It doesn't bother me for my friends to play with it as long as they take care of it, but what has been bothering me is that she asks me for it constantly. Every day when we get into class, she asks for it. Whe we are supposed to be working, she asks to play with it. When we are doing a graded assignment, she asks for it. Recently I have been getting the feeling I'm being used.

I know it's more than that because of the way she acts around me when she can't use it. When i see her at breakfast, she diesregards me. When i need a favor, she can't do it. And it's not just me she's acting like this to, its other friends, other classmates. She'll start gossiping about what a ***** some girl is. so I've started becoming more than skeptical about her but i don't want to hurt her, What do you think I should do?

As far as i can understand the situation, she is using you big time.
She wants to have things you use, but doesn't want to do anything back in return.
You should tell her that. And if she doesn't agree with you, then that's her problem.

As for the gossip: everyone does that. Even guys. You can't stop them doing it, Just don't listen to it if you can't stand it.

Thanks for the advice. Today the friends who sit at the table with her also agreed that things were getting a little out of hand with her. My other friends observed her taking some of the stuff out of my bag without eve asking, or me even knowing! My friends thought that she has been using me and not being very polite or tactful. They thought that we should ask the teacher to move her because she had been saying nasty things about me, I assumed that was when I wouldn't let her use my IPOD, but I disagreed and said that we shouldn't be mean to her without even giving her a chance. So later today we came to an agreement that we would confront her about her actions and try and make an agreement. So I'm just going to wait and see how things go tomorrow.

Depending on how close you are to her, I think it's not worth the trouble being friends with her. You should have fun with your friends and enjoy their company, ya know? If her being your friend is just causing you unneeded stress, then I don't think you should continue being friends.