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"give respect get respect"

I give respect to everybody and I show a lot of confidence. I am a good man who never puts down anyone. You will never hear a cuss word or insult come out my mouth. And no one respects me. I'm treated like by my peers all the time. Everyone feels they can beat me in a fight or something. I'm always having to start the conversation, if I ever do have the guts to start one. My socially awkward self

So what does that tell ya?

That tells me you need to show these people what's up. People think they can beat you easily in a fight? Prove them wrong next chance you get. Few punches to the nose and neck and there you go.
If you're a sort of pacifist then just do whatever you're doing. Girls like a respectful guy, you're going to get your fair share of them once you're older if not anytime sooner. All these guys don't mean shit once you graduate

You're a good guy, and people take advantage of good people because well, they know they won't get shit back.

Now, I'm not one for overly respecting people. I'm decent and nice to people but I think respect is more so earned for me. I don't think it's just something someone should automatically have. But of course I try to be a decent and respectable person to someone. I think being a respectable person myself is different then giving everyone else respect. Yeah i cuss but i don't cuss at someone. There's a huge difference there. I'm not a bitch or a bully to people, I just tend to be more assertive and opinionated then most. People tend to think I'm bitchy or belittling and controlling because I'm assertive, and I don't take crap lightly. I tend to follow through with a conversation or advice, I don't just say my piece and leave. If someone lets that control how they act, then they probably aren't secure enough in what they're wanting to do, which is fine by me then, for example 14 year olds having sex hah. Id rather be hated on then some young 14 year old possibly getting pregnant and their life changing forever in possibly a bad way. People think just because I have a conversation about one subject for a long while, even though it's a person I'm jealous or being controlling, when not really.. it's just talking. You can disagree if you like.


Sorry I ranted on your thread

They dont deserve you.
Why would a good guy hang out with assholes.
I say fuck em do your own thang and dont pay attention to them.
Or start being like them so you would get "respect" from some loosers.

"give respect, get respect" is not a true statement. It's an absolute statement and statements of that nature tend to be wrong. Sometimes one gives respect and receives the opposite in exchange. The more respectful you are the more of a chance of this happening. However, I think that, regardless of the what you're receiving now, respect is something very valuable. Even putting aside that (in most people's values) you are a "good" person, respect works in a pragmatic sense in the world today. If you practice respect now, it'll become a lifelong habit. And that habit can help you get ahead in the world. It will afford you more opportunities in the future. It will allow you to maximize the potential that you have, once you get out of school. At least, that's my opinion.