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yesterday, i broke down at school. Here’s what happened

Last weekend, when i was at my mom’s house, i was on her computer and i kind read something about a ring. I forgot about it for the week cause i was pretty busy and hyped about basketball districts (which me came in second *sadface*) so i didnt remember about it until yesterday. We were in the computer lab and i had a computer, so I logged on to my moms email—>i know i should have, but i did.. i read the email she and her brother had. She had picked out a ring already and she’s getting her brother to buy it..cuz maybe it’s cheaper in the states. And when he comes during spring break, he will bring it to my mom. They are going to have an engagement event too. When i read engagement.. i couldnt take it.. i excused myself and went to the washroom.after i kind of calmed down i went back to class and then i looked at the ring and reread the message. The ring costs 600 dollars..money that we cant spare. I wasnt feeling so great, i chucked my mouse and just sat there. Then one of my friends came up and asked me if i was okay, i said no and started to cry. I cried a bit in class and then ran out of the lab and to the washroom. I ended up crying in there and then after i calmed down a bit more, I went down the stairs and i fell apart even more at the bottom of the staircase. Two of my other friends came in when they saw me crying and hugged me and told me to breath.. I calmed myself down again and went to get some fresh air. I guess i wasnt calm again cause when i was walking out, another one of my friends from basketball saw me crying and ran after me. When i went outside i collapsed again right outside the grade 12 area. I cried and cried and cried. I looked like shit and my eyes were all red. It was so horrible and embarassing.. im not supposed to cry. i never cry in public…im always the strong one

I hate to tell you this, but. NEVER pry into someone's personal life. Your mother I'm sure has a good grasp on her finances. Even if you don't like the dude she is getting engaged to, it is her life, and she has a right to happiness just like you do. Times will obviously be tough in the future, but you have to react appropriately.

it shouldnt be personal tho..she should have let us in on this decision for it affects us more than ever. I'm resenting her even more now..yes she has the right to happiness, but that doesnt mean she can drop her own kids when she decides she's not happy with us.

It is your mother's own personal life. It should be hers to keep. She isn't hanging you out to dry, and I don't understand how you take it that your mother is doing this because she isn't happy with you.

^Another point to consider though is that a parent needs to take their child's happiness into account, and at least not keep you in the dark about something important...

Well I'm sure that she planned on telling her eventually If she didn't vocalize her disapproval for the soon-to-be fiance, then that is on her.

i dont agree with you. she had me and my sisters, so therefore, she should be responsible of us..and she left my family, my sister, and my dad for this man

this i agree

Yeah, I kind of agree with both sides. She should be able to have her personal life, and may have been planning on telling you, but when you have a child the child's well-being comes first.

yea i agree with that.. :3 i just find taht since she decided to have me and my sisters, she should take responsibility for that

Agreed.

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