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Right I get that my mum doesn't want to be a "burden" on me, but it is my responsbility to look after her and I don't know how I need to make her realise that. Like about an hour ago I was sitting in my room and she normally needs help bathing, so I bathe her. But an hour ago she decides to go into the bath alone and slips inside of it and now she's in a lot of pain and it frustrates me so much that she dosen't just let me help her. When I ask why it's always "You do everything for me" I know I do but I have to and I want to. It just really angers me because this isn't the first time this week. The other day she nearly fell over whilst putting on her trousers and she wanted to go for a walk on her own (Which I went out with her but just walked behind her, she didnt speak to me for the whole way but knew I was behind her) it just really irritates me.
I know it must be frustrating for you, but it's really hard for her as well... having to have someone basically wipe your ass and do everything for you like you're a child.. That's not only a hard thing to swallow in itself, but to have it be her daughter. And not to mention how embarrassing/shameful she feels like it is. It's hard on both sides To be honest =/
When all the trees have been cut down,
when all the animals have been hunted,
when all the waters are polluted,
when all the air is unsafe to breathe,
only then will you discover you cannot eat money.
~ Cree Prophecy ~
Like the posters above,
The good thing in this is that she does realize how much you do for her, and I'm sure she feels bad that she's not able to do things for herself. The bad thing, as you've mentioned, is that she puts herself in danger trying to avoid getting help from you.
Maybe you two could just sit down and have a very serious talk about it? Your mom needs help from you, and you're perfectly willing to help her, but she needs to understand that it's okay for her to be helped.
I'm old. Damn.
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inb4: I'm the black one.