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Me and this guy used to really like eachother. We went to dances at our school together etc. And then I guess I started losing interest. Eventually I didn't have as much fun with him as I used to, and I guess he noticed. He texted me one day asking if I still liked him. I said that I only like him as a friend and he was really understanding. He told me that it was ok and I can't help my feelings and that he'd rather have me in his life as a friend than not at all. But he doesn't treat me like a friend. He seems reluctant to talk to me at school and on facebook and he gives half assed replies to my texts. I want to be friends with him, but he's not making an effort to be friends. I think maybe he just gave me the friend speech to keep up appearances or whatever. I don't think he really meant it. My friend thinks that he stopped talking to me because he knows he can't get anything from me. Should I keep trying to be his friend or should I move on?

It may be that this guy just hasn't gotten over the fact that your not dating any-more it sounds to me like he just might have liked you in that special kinda way. He may feel betrayed or abandoned even. If you still hold feelings for him at all you should, give a guy a chance, some times we just need a little time to rebound from some thing like this. After all its' not every day that the one you love tells you that they just wanta be friends, especialy if its comin from a girl its' usualy coming from a guy thats tired of waitin around for sparks to fly, or maybe a prik thats already got what he wanted and doesn't care any-more. Still advise from firefly sais if you still like him just give him some space but when you see him just give him a reassuring glance or something that will let him know you still care. Good luck and happy holidays

ok. thanks!

i'm sorry i cant give much advice but just to make u feel like ur not alone ,im in the same kinda boat.
there's a guy at school i totally love to bits, but he wants us to be just friends and i totally would rather be friends than nothing. But he just kind of doesnt talk to me anymore, doesnt give real replies on msn etc. why do guys do this??!!! but i'm sure whatever you do it will be ok. Maybe you should just go up to him and tell him how u are feeling, ask him why he's not talking so much.... Good Luck!

...... lol. you are being unfair to the guy. he's the one that's into and you are the one that crushed him. he said he wanted to be friends with you b/c he somehow wants you in his life, but the truth is that it hurts every time he talks to you. give the guy some space and room to move on. later in the future, when he is completely over you, you guys could try this friendship thing again and just laugh at the past together =)