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My ex boyfriend and I recently started talking again as "friends." We go to the same college, as does his current girlfriend

We split up as after going out for a year I found out that he'd been cheating on me for at least a month with 2 other girls. For a while I hated him, but at the same time I really struggled to get over him. I wanted to forgive him, but my best friend told me that he was a player and he'd only carry on hurting me. He ended up dating a so-called friend of mine who was one of the people he cheated on me with. Up until recently I thought I was finally over him and was actually getting on with my "friend" ( we weren't best friends anymore but I could now talk to her which was something I couldn't bare to do after he started going out with her)

Anyway, the ex and I started texting each other recently. He actually took the first step by complimenting me on what I was wearing and somehow it lead to a flirtatious conversation. After that we spoke with each other in the last week that have been getting a little more sexual. I know on my part, I am probably doing it for revenge on both of them (which is sick). But, My QUESTION IS.if he cares for her so much and cheated on me to be with her, what does he want with me? The thing is. he always said I was the BEST he had ever had. I mean we have gotten down and dirty everywhere. We definitely had trouble not sleeping with each other even after breaking up. But now, he has someone &supposedly it's serious. Why does he still want to sleep with me?

The msn convos and messges he sends me are so detailed in what he would "love" to do with me and how he wants to try new things with me. After all the hurt he put me through & then to find out he is now with an ex friend of mine. What does he want with me? I told him I knew he missed what we had but why wasnt he sastisfied with what he has now? He then told me that he was honestly satisfied but it was just the excitement of talking to me. He said he was probably just all talk. Trust me, if he were all talk he wouldn't have come onto me at a party last weekend. His girlfriend wasn't there. I was slightly drunk at the time, one thing lead to another and we ended up sleeping together (I know that bit sound cliched but that's the best way I can think to describe what happened).

I know, I'm not right to respond to his texts or have sex with him but I couldn't help it. I feel like Karma's a bitch both of them. I mean I could literally RUIN her life and his by letting her know that he doesn't just wanna f*ck her but he wants to f*ck me too. And badly. I already feel guilty and probably I'm not going to do it but I wanted to know how he can care for her but want to sleep with me?

It's unlikely that he wants you because he's not satisfied with you and it's unlikely that he cheated on you because you weren't good enough for him. Some people think that men cheat <inset disclaimer: not all men cheat, most are very faithful but some do cheat.> because it's an instinct, caveman type thing in which he feels it's important to spread his seed as much as he can. Personally I think that's rubbish. Cheating is exciting in the same way that people have sex in risky places. The thrill of being caught makes it more fun and often makes the experience better because the adrenaline levels are so high at the time.

Also, guys always have to compete with other guys and sleeping with other girls is a big ego booster. Having another girl wanting him makes him feel big and important and the thrill of the chase increases his ego even more.

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Well what can I say THATS BOYS FOR YA!! and Yes I am one! He does sound like a player, however you know what it feels like to be cheated on, so why go and have sex with him, even if your not together...

I don't think that he is Honestly satisfied because if he was:
1) he wouldn't be a player
2) he wouldn't put you or anyone else through all that pain again...

I don't think you should ruin anyone's life at all, OK they ruined yours, but 2 wrongs don't make a right do they?

I hope you get it all sorted out! Good Luck... and my advice is... Don't sleep with him anymore... (Thats what I would do!)

ahaha very subtle :001_rolleyes:

Why not just go the whole distance and PM this to me. Actually, why the fuck have you put this up on here? If you want to have a go at me then have a go at me, why does this have to be put up for everyone to see?

I didn't cheat on you with 2 girls, I haven't been sending you "detailed messages about what I'd love to do with you." If you were so bothered about us talking why did you keep replying. And you never drank anything at that party...so how do you work out that you were drunk? :001_rolleyes:

If you want to tell my girlfriend then go ahead, I get I've made mistakes in the past, and ye I've made another one, but if you're going tell her then don't spout off a load of crap like you've done here, making out that you're some innocent girl who I've messed around with. Just decided to ignore any details that show you're in the wrong aswell?

Can someone delete this thread? This isn't asking for advice, this is just a dig at me, and for some reason Zoey thought it'd be a good idea to publically post this.

I didn't mention you're name once. I've put this up here because I wanted advice, as this is the help and advice forums.

I haven't made out that I'm innocent & I admitted to the fact that I knew you had a girlfriend. I feel bad for her that I helped you cheat on her...but I was drunk at that party. I never would have done that otherwise. Everything I said in my post is the truth and you know it.

I posted this here as I did need some advice &if it helps you to realise the hurt you've caused me and currently causing your girlfriend then that's a bonus...but I'm not expecting you to realise that.

Okay, ye sure, it must be good to be able to be wasted and act as thought your completely sober :001_rolleyes: you did what you did just cus you were drunk, not at all cus your a slag. You don't feel bad that you "helped me cheat on her" as you put it. Your pissed off that I regretted it and I'm not interested in you anymore.

Anyway, she's just basically admitted that the point of this thread is to have a go at me. She's talking a load of crap To be honest, missing out loads of details just to suit her argument. So can someone delete this thread please?

I have reported it!

This wasn't just to have a go at you, but it's hard for it not to come across like that considering how you treated me. Go on then, what details am i missing that would justify what you did? && calling me a slag? If that's all you can say to justify what you did

Hmmm, I'm not quite sure what to do here...
You're both acting like idiots.

Markus, she was asking for advice on what to do, that was it.

Zoey was asking for advice and you have no right to come on here and ask for it to be deleted.
If you don't like the situation going on, Markus, Isuggest you go and fix it instead of trying to make it disappear.

Now... Markus, just ignore it. We had no idea this was even about you until you mentioned it.
So it wasn't a public stab, but now it is thanks to you mentioning it.

Therefore, both of you, stop your bickering. If you wanna bicker, do it in real life. This thread is for advice.

That is all.

lol honestly zoey, how old are you? If you want to have an argument or have a go you've got plenty of other opportunities to do it. If you want to tell my girlfriend, be my guest. I'm not as petty or childish as you so I'm not going to post up details that you've missed. I'm guessing you posted this here cus you were hoping everyone would gang up on me ...seeing as that hasn't happened maybe you could get over it and get on with you're life?

Also, I'm disputing the fact that this thread is for advice. If it was genuinely for advice then she'd have explained the whole situation and not just made it sound like I'm a prick. She knows I use this forum, why post it here if it is just for advice? Why pick this forum instead over the hundreds f others out there. Like I said, I rose to the bait to defend myself which I shouldn't have, but she was expecting everyone to gang up on me. That's the only reason she'sposted here.

As fun as this pointless thread is, I'm going to stop replying now