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Totally_Crazy · 07-05-10, 12:28 PM

Okay, so i split up with my boyfriend 3 months ago, I still really love him. We don't talk much now but when we do it brings it all back. We've only seen each other once since splitting up and that was in the street. I don't know how he feels anymore, when we do talk its silmilar to how we used to talk but feels... awkward.

So i love him, i've never actually stopped. I also feel something towards my best friend, i don't know what it is, but theres something, there has been since i met him, it died down ALOT when i got with my ex but slowly its come back :/. Again i don't know how he feels. I know its more than a friendly attraction, but i dont think its love.

Sorry xD this is abit all over the place.

Any advice would be great though

<3

Porcelain Heart · 07-05-10, 12:47 PM

Generally when you develop a crush on your best friend its because of a security thing. You feel comfortable and accepted around them but my advice would be to just keep it on a friendship level unless you're both really clear on whether you want to be with each other or not. You should saviour the friendship instead of making it messy I think.

Rogan · 07-05-10, 01:43 PM

Only you can make the decision whether you want to go back to your ex or not but make sure you think long and hard about it. Remember the reason that you broke up with him and whether things would be different if you got back together with him. Also, try and see it from his point of view. Was he left hurt or upset? If so, he might not want to be in a relationship with you and if that's the case, then you should try and move on.

If you want to try and stay friends but talking is awkward between you then maybe it's best that you try and move apart from each other. The awkward may go away or it may remain. My advice would be to give it a bit more time and see how things go on the talking front.

As for your other friend, do you think you might be that you are longing to be in a relationship with someone and you already know that you get along with him. Starting a relationship with someone you're already good friends with can be risky. You might find that you don't work as a couple and that when you try and go back to being friends, it feels awkward and you end up losing a friend. There's a saying that goes something like 'It's better to not love than to lose a friend' or something like that. :s

But on the other it can be really good and you could be extremely happy in a relationship with him. I think it would be something that you would have to talk about before either of you committed to anything. If you're good friends with him, you should be able to be open with him and talk about what you both think is best. Maybe try and find out from a friend or someone how he feels about you first.