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Okay, if you read a thread I made last week or so, I was telling you how the girl I loved was moving to Australia, well, a couple of days ago I confessed how I feel to her, I wont tell you exactly what I said, but it was heartfelt.

She said there was so much going on, and she would see how it goes in the coming weeks. We talked as friends until tonight she confessed she felt exactly the same, but didn't want to tell me because it would break my heart if she stayed in Australia.

She said she doesn't want to be an obstacle for me getting with anyone else in England while she is on the other side of the world.

It's so fucking aggravating I feel like I might actually cry, and the only previous time I've cried in the past 2 years or so is when my Nana passed away.

I'm just so upset I really genuinely need help.

I know this may sound corny, but you have to think of the positive things here.

First, she may not stay in Australia. And if she DOESN'T stay in Australia, she told you how she feels about you, so when she comes back you two can have a really great thing together.

Second, she feels the same way you feel about her! I mean isn't that a great thing?! When you told her how you felt, she could have turned you down and said that she didn't feel the same at all. Instead, you have someone who genuinely cares about you! That's awesome!

But, if you need anything else, feel free to PM or something. I hope I made you feel a little better

Josh, what's the part here that's upsetting to you?

You shared your feeling with this lass, and she reciprocated, saying she felt the same. That's good!

She said she understood the complications (and reality) of her moving to Oz, and didn't want to hold you back. That shows real emotional awareness, and understanding and it's very loving! We always put the needs of those we love ahead of ourselves, and that's exactly what she's doing here. So far, so good.

I understand your sadness at losing her, she sounds very mature and very capable of loving you in good and important ways. But, you still have some time left with her. Remember my response to Part I? I said that sharing your feelings with her (and hearing hers) brings you closer, and that makes the separation (when it comes) easier. It insulates you a bit from the loss and the sadness. Warmth (Now) cancels 'cold'( Later).

Spend the time wisely with her, get close to her and enjoy her as much as you can, and don't dwell too much on the separation part just yet.

I am in pretty much the same situation. The guy that I just confessed I liked and he confessed he liked me, is moving very far away. I agree with Josh. It will be hard once he leaves but at least we get a little bit of time to spend before we must part. The only thing is it may not be worth risking putting your heart and soul into her when it will be ripped apart soon. You should use your discretion and judge how hurt you might be compared to the happiness she can bring you.

wow! i have to agree with Amber because i can see more Pros from this than cons! apart from the fact she's in Australia she still likes you! therefore if she comes back you guys will be all happy and whatnot! XD

Cuteeeee.
Im sorry i just find this kind of thing cute.
You're totally in love with her.
I really dunno what advice to give you since if i were you, id feel the same way.
It's almost perfect, you guys are almost lovers.
It’s not that I believe that everything happens for a reason. I just think some things are meant to be broken, imperfect, chaotic. It’s the universe’s way of providing contrast, you know? There have to be a few holes in the road. That’s how life is. If everything was smooth and perfect, you’d get too used to that, you know? You have to have a little disorganization now and then. Otherwise, you’ll never really enjoy it when things go right. [simplydonna.tumblr.com]

If you want to cry, cry. Just do it once and get it over with. You need the release. God, I feel bad for you, Australian chicks are fucking awesome.