Teen Forums - Teen Chat, Teen Help, Teen Advice & Support

Well. Things have been rocky with my boyfriend and I lately, to say the very least. We fight pretty much every day; needless to say I'm usually the one that starts it, but he always finds a way to get under my skin. Like, if I'm having the best day ever, he'll say something that irritates the hell out of me and the rest of my day will be ruined.
We never spend time together anymore. Yesterday was the first time in a long time that we actually did something together, when we set off our fireworks. I always tell him, "Let's go do something." or "Let's find something to do. I don't want to sit at home anymore." but he never gets away from WoW long enough to actually put effort in.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do; I've brought up the idea of a break for like a week, where I'd stay with my friend, but he said that I should just break up with him if I want that because he's taken breaks with other girls and they always resulted in cheating (the girls did, not him). I don't want to break up with him; I love him, and I want to work things out, but I don't know if I have any motivation to try anymore.
I just don't know what to do.

If you really love him, and I mean really love him, you'll let him have his WoW, been while he is playing it, show him that you're better than WoW

Well if you really do love him, which I'm sure you do, then love should prevail as they say. You've been having problems recently though, so as with every problem, there must be some deeper cause. Maybe something else in his life is not so good or he's stressed?

If there is some problem that he hasnt told you, then it will account for all thats going on. You could be having a good day, whilst he's stressed over whatever, so he says something to irritate you to take out his problems. This sort of defence mechanism is a natural when so,ething is not right.

Its up to you to ask him nicely if there is something wrong, and let him know that you love him and that you can't continue like this. Don't threaten to break up or anything, just let him know that your there for him when he needs you and that you want to go back to being a good couple.

Then its up for love to keep you together, may a little less effort on your part and that whilst he deals with whatever, if there is something to deal with. If not, make it clear to him that things need to change as its upsetting you. I'm sure if he loves you, he will change and focus back to you.

Hope it goes well and that my advise has helped

People typically fight b/c they're unhappy about something, and the fighting is the way that stuff comes out, it's a type of communication. Problem is, even though most people can usually figure out that the person they're fighting with is unhappy, they often can;t figure out exactly what it is they're unhappy about.

The solution to that is to talk plainly about what it is that you're unhappy about before it reaches the boiling point. people hear reasonable convo (even if they disagree with the content) differently than they do when people are screaming and shouting t them.

Try calmly talking with him in an observational, non accusatorily way and see where it goes.

well, no relationship is perfect. sometimes you have to go down to go up.
i would be worried if he thinks more of Wow that of you. You are a living, breathing human being. it is just a game