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I posted about a week ago saying that my boyfriend and his brother were always aruging.
People were really helpfull and I decided to talk to him about it and see if there's anything I could do to help him.
I talked to him and he told me that there was nothing I could really do to help him, but thanks.

Anyway, things actualy calmed down between him and his brother, untill last night.
Basicly, we were at his house just getting his stuff as he was coming up mine, and he asked his brother where the laptop charger was.
His brother replied- Where you f****g left it.
And that was that.
It doesn't help that my boyfriend has Anger problems which he see's someone about.
But basicly my boyfriend started swearing at him and his brother was swearing at him, and I was just stood there, I diddn't want to say somthing incase it made everything worse, but then his brother said somthing about me, I'm not quite sure what, but my boyfriend just punched him and I was like- Stop it!!! Both of you stop it, but Then they were just hitting each other, at that I ran down and got his dad at which he had to physicaly pull my boyfriend of, of his brother. And then his dad rang my mum and asked if it was allright for my boyfriend to stay at my house untill things have calmed down.
I was totaly gobsmacked, the damage they both caused to each other!
He actualy broke his brothers nose.

I havent even spoke about it to my boyfriend incase I get him angry again.
But apart from that, around me hes been acting as if nothings even happened, and being really really nice to me.

I have no ideal what to do.
Should I just leave it, and wait for him to talk to me about it if he wants?
Or should I ask him to speak to me about it and explain what happened?

Sorry for it being too long :(

xo<3

Wow...

Hold old are these guys, Georgia?

Your b/f probably acted like nothing happened b/c from his perspective, nothing did. This is 'normal' for them, it' not for you, though. That's why you're reacting as you are.

I think his brother might need some help, too. IDk if you can say this, but since you got his dad, maybe you could share with him what you saw and how out of control it is, and how good it was that he was able to intervene. And, that his brother might benefit from seeing someone, too.

At the very least, it might not be such a good thing for you to witness and experience these out of control events, maybe you should avoid being where he and his bro are. It's doubtful you can get to the bottom of what's happening there and fix it, so it might just be best to stay out of the way, esp. if he's not being violent to you.

My boyfriends 17, 18 this year, and his brothers 16.
Thats a good ideal, i diddnt think of speaking to his dad about it.

Thankyou
xo <3

In my opinion, I think the best thing you can do is just to let him know that you're there for him if he ever wants to talk about what happened. Don't force things out of him because he needs space but just make sure that he's not alone. It sounds like he's bottling things up at the moment because he wants things to calm down a bit first before he opens up about what went on. If you can, strike an even balance between giving him space and letting him deal with things; and offering to be there for him to help and support and listen to him if he wants to talk.

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