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I usually go up to her during break to ask if shes alright and give her a hug and then suddenly it goes silent and there is nothing to talk about .__. I start feeling stupid just stading in silence so I tell her to go with her mates cuz they're calling her. Oh and i take her to her class sometimes if i see her.
This is a big no no. If there's no talking then that means there's no connection. You have to connect with someone to be with them.
I agree with Kirk, I would break up with her and find someone that's fun and outgoing.
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So it started like this; she was best friends with my Girlfriend. We were good friends and she always asked me for a hug. When i broke up with my Girlfriend, she gave me her number. We started to text each other. Then she said she fancys me and i felt the same to her but i didn't really want a girl friend in Year 8 so i told her tht i will ask her out in year 9. She said ok. Then me and her kept on givin each other big hugs at breaks ( hug from behind and holding hands) so i asked her out. Now it came back to little hugs but with a Kiss :/
Matt, I'm not exactly sure (even at 14/13) how you can be 'going out' when all you do is hug and wave at each other in the school hallway. I think what you have here is a crush on someone who you fancy, but not much else. And, it sounds like the problem is that you'd like more than that and don't know how to get it.
I think you might need to take it a step at a time. So, step one is contact in school. Step two might be contact outside of school, but nothing heavy, the cinema might be too much right now since your contact is limited to school (which could be why she's turning you down) it might be too much too soon. Take it down a notch, maybe a walk in the park, some ice cream, etc. Then, follow up with some small talk on IM/txt/phone. Build slowly on this.
You have to build a relationship based on time spent together, not necessarily on the intensity of your feelings or where you wish things were. It takes more time this way, but there's a better chance you'll get there. If you try this slower approach for a while and it still doesn't move things along, then she's not for you. However, right now, it's hard to determine if her reluctance is due to a lack of interest on her part, or just a discomfort with the way you're moving it along. Change your approach and see what happens.
maybe you talk on the phone, IM, or email if you can't see each other every day.
before school was out for the summer, i was only able to see my gf 1-2 times a week, but we talked on IM or send email every day. it not as good as see your gf in person, but girls seem to like to talk to their gf even if they can see him every day, at least my gf is that way.
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