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Well i suppose, i fell in love with somebody on the internet, its complicated, i really really really love him, but before i met him i wasnt a jealous person, now im so suspisious and watching everything he does on the networking site. it really upsets me and sometimes i just feel like crying. when he goes away i feel like part of me is gone and it gets me in a deep depression until he comes back. anybody got any advice? please!!

Do you know why you visit his networking profile all the time, for example are you worried about if he's talking to other girls more than you?

The best thing to do is probably to just let things "flow". Don't visit his profile too often, but keep in regular contact with him, either by message, text, MSN etc.

Are you actually in a relationship with this guy? How long have you known each other in person?

The more information we have, the better we'll be able to help you.

if you have a long-distance relationship you better trust eachother very much , trust me , dont try to be always on the top of the situation like kirk said.. let things flow.. or besides happiness you will be in constantly upset and stuff . so.. be more open to it.

Like Kirk said, are you in a relationship with him or is it a one way thing?

If you are in a relationship and love him like you say you do then you should be able to trust him not to go behind your back with other girls. I believe that that's probably the reason you are so suspicious of him. Because this is an online relationship, there is a lot of time when you are unable to spend time together and speak to one another so you need to learn that he has his own life to live. This doesn't mean that he's going behind your back though.

If I'm honest, I'm going to say that if this relationship is hurting you so much when he's not online and it's making you permanently suspicious of him, maybe you should call it off; for your own sake. Okay, so you love this guy but it's hurting you so much and from what you've said, I think that the good times don't make up for the bad times.

I'm sorry this is so negative but I hope it helps.

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well i dont exactly want to finish it with him :/ id be even more hurt, we'v been talkin for a year and a half and wev been intimate for about 10 months... i think i know him pretty well, maybe im justover reactin? but i duno... its just that he does everythin i say and he listen's t everyword i say aswell but i actually dont know hwy i doubt him i just dont want him to go off with someone else!

Ya, Kirk and Josh!

It also sounds like you're getting possessive, and that's getting in your way here. Are you typically like that, or is the distance + your feelings creating that for you?

If it's typical for you to get emotionally over invested in people and therefore possessive, jealous and controlling, you might want to take a look at that and address it within yourself, as it will likely cause problems in other relationships in your lifetime.

If it's NOT typical for you, then you can try to understand that the distance is creating that feeling of loss, and that you have to address that some other way, so it doesn't torment you, or possibly drive a wedge btw'n you and him. If that doesn't work for you, then maybe you're not the type who can handle separation from your guy, and it might be best (however painful) to end things and look to establish a relationship closer to home.

ye i know what you mean, i think im just gona cool it off fora wile i think that might just calm me down. il just do stuff to take my mind off him, but im not, not goin to speak to him il speak to him but relax myself abit, trust is the main thing so. but it was just that a few of my ex's before cheated on me and broke my heart and i dont really want that to happen again although he has assured me it wont i just cant really believe him but i have to start.. thanks guys! appreciate it

Those are some good ideas. I hope it all works out for you.