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a guy at school that plays basketball asked me to sit on his knee and i did, is that ok??
hes not my bf but i known him for 2 years and hes 2 years older and he talks to me like "hello how ar you today come sit here, tell me about your day". he talks like really enthusiastic even though im boring, but he has a girlfriend so is it ok to sit on his knee? so far ive sat there 3 times
Well, I'm not sure because he has a girlfriend. But it's not like you two are doing anything.
I've sat on guys before, none of their girlfriends ever had a problem with it really.
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I really depends on what the girlfriends opinion of it is. If she's the type of person who wouldn't like other girls sitting on her boyfriend's knee then I would avoid doing it just to avoid confrontation. Others may be more comfortable with it. I'm not saying you have to bow down to his girlfriend but jut be careful to avoid an argument even though you and him know it's doing no harm.
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Isabel, you get yourself into a lot of situations with guys that are questionable, yes? So, i think the answer really lies in why this seems to happen so much to you, and what it might mean.
A guy who's two years older than you and really has a limited (if any) relationship really has no business asking you to sit on his lap, and you have none to accept the offer. Sitting on someone is a pretty personal thing, and in the absence of any real relationship with him, it's really not appropriate to be quite that close. It's not an expression of closeness that evolves from friendship, it's really quite sexual. Sorta like being in a room with a guy who's erect penis is exposed.
I think you enjoy the attention of all of this, but be aware that in the absence of any real relationship, the type of attention it provides is probably just sexual, you're sorta depersonalized and seen as something merely 'cute', like a doll. That might be OK now, but in the future, it might be hard to be taken seriously, as you'll have established reputation for yourself that you might not like.
I think the guy (uhhmm... not me) should worry about his girlfriend's feelings, not anyone else.
And I don't think we can answer your question. The real question is whether sitting on this guy's knee is going to backfire on you. That depends on what people around you think about it. If they think it's cool, I can't see the problem. If they are likely to react badly, it doesn't matter what we say.
Well, I'm not sure because he has a girlfriend. But it's not like you two are doing anything.
I've sat on guys before, none of their girlfriends ever had a problem with it really.
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Originally Posted by Rogan
I really depends on what the girlfriends opinion of it is. If she's the type of person who wouldn't like other girls sitting on her boyfriend's knee then I would avoid doing it just to avoid confrontation. Others may be more comfortable with it. I'm not saying you have to bow down to his girlfriend but jut be careful to avoid an argument even though you and him know it's doing no harm.
If shes not there can i? or do you mean 24/7 never sit on him? Its like i am his sister i guess.
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Isabel, you get yourself into a lot of situations with guys that are questionable, yes? So, i think the answer really lies in why this seems to happen so much to you, and what it might mean.
A guy who's two years older than you and really has a limited (if any) relationship really has no business asking you to sit on his lap, and you have none to accept the offer. Sitting on someone is a pretty personal thing, and in the absence of any real relationship with him, it's really not appropriate to be quite that close. It's not an expression of closeness that evolves from friendship, it's really quite sexual. Sorta like being in a room with a guy who's erect penis is exposed.
I think you enjoy the attention of all of this, but be aware that in the absence of any real relationship, the type of attention it provides is probably just sexual, you're sorta depersonalized and seen as something merely 'cute', like a doll. That might be OK now, but in the future, it might be hard to be taken seriously, as you'll have established reputation for yourself that you might not like.
I find guys cute so i like mixing with guys a lot but not sleeping with guys ever! I want a reputation of just being really nice to everyone
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Originally Posted by Kaylie
If the guy's gf has a problem with it, then you shouldn't do it. I would be kinda miffed if my bf asked a girl to sit on his knee.
I guess if she is ok with me being like a sister. He is older than me so its more likely im a sis that anything
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I think the guy (uhhmm... not me) should worry about his girlfriend's feelings, not anyone else.
And I don't think we can answer your question. The real question is whether sitting on this guy's knee is going to backfire on you. That depends on what people around you think about it. If they think it's cool, I can't see the problem. If they are likely to react badly, it doesn't matter what we say.
His guy friends are there and they play basketball and i sit and watch and thats how it started. And i began coming with girlfriends and we all watched but now sometimes i come alone cos if i come with girlfriends i end up ignoring them (when i mix with HIM) which is not good.
Isabel, you like attention. You have to realize that your need for attention sometimes might make you seem not so much like a 'nice girl', but a bit of a slut. People form opinions on what they see, not necessarily what the other person (you) mean. You might think guys are cute and you like being with them, but if you find yourself in a room with a guy who's erection is out of his pants, and you sit in older guys laps at public sporting events with lots of other people around, you're likely to develop a rep that's based on what people see and hear, rather than the type of person you know you are.
Don't justify your behavior here based so much on what you like, or what you might mean by it, try thinking about how it looks (or sounds) to the many other people who either see it or hear about it.
I was quite surprised by Spock's words above, but I then realized he connected previous posts by you.
I'll be more careful and say: How people take your behavior depends on your environment to a great extent. What is 100% OK in some environment will make people look very badly at you in another.
But I have to say, that given the threads you've started and the questions you're asking, I'm pretty convinced that you're on a safe path towards quite a few unpleasant situations. Unless you live in Brazil or in a similar environment, I would bet on people getting a very mistaken view of who you are.
Don't get me wrong: I have no problem with anything you've mentioned. But there's always a soul out there to twist things around, and make you look like, how shall I put it, a not-so-respectful girl. Gossip has its own way, and it has nothing to do with your intentions nor the truth. So be careful with that, OK?
Isabel, you like attention. You have to realize that your need for attention sometimes might make you seem not so much like a 'nice girl', but a bit of a slut. People form opinions on what they see, not necessarily what the other person (you) mean. You might think guys are cute and you like being with them, but if you find yourself in a room with a guy who's erection is out of his pants, and you sit in older guys laps at public sporting events with lots of other people around, you're likely to develop a rep that's based on what people see and hear, rather than the type of person you know you are.
Don't justify your behavior here based so much on what you like, or what you might mean by it, try thinking about how it looks (or sounds) to the many other people who either see it or hear about it.
I never sleep with anyone, people never see me in bed anyway, not a slut! My friends wear smaller skirts than me :( I am nice to everyone :(
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