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Does the "friend-zone" actually exist? If so, do you believe it is impossible to get out of it?

I see it mentioned on a lot of websites; people saying how they're crush will never like them as they've been friend-zoned and the like.

So, yeah, opinions please!!

The friend-zone only exists if the person thinks it exists. In the past, I have only seen it as a barrier, it's always been something I can climb over if I really tried my best.

In short: For me, it exists. But it all comes down to the person being asked in the end. You could say that people who think they have been friend-zoned have little self motivation and are quite pessimistic, they feel like they've come to a wall they cannot climb.

^ iawtc; it's an individual thing.

For me, it exists as far as there are male friends I have that I'd never be able to find attractive. I think it's the same for a lot of people, although there's a bloke on this forum that thinks differently - can't remember his u/n, but his general feeling is that everyone fancies everyone until proven otherwise. I don't agree with that and it doesn't affect me, but I suppose it could be true for some people. If so, the friend zone would probably be a result of the 'proven otherwise'.

It's not really a term that means anything. If I felt that someone regarded me too much as a platonic friend rather than a romantic interest, I'd just accept that they didn't fancy me haha. Maybe avoiding the friend zone or getting yourself out of it would involve appealing to your target's (lol) turn ons.

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I think the term "Friend zone" is misleading. Cute, but misleading. Rather, I think the more accurate term is "Attraction".

I think the basis of attraction is pretty complex, people look for different things, they find different things 'attractive' or 'arousing', it's not at all consistent...what works for one might not work for another. So, for something to be "Romantic" (and work out), both people need to experience the same desirable qualities in the other person. Otherwise, the 'attraction' (lower case 'a') is based on other attributes, like common interests, or 'niceness', etc.

Relationships can evolve from 'friendship' to 'Romantic' as people get to know each other and an attachment develops based on a deeper understanding and appreciation of those qualities..and the person. Typically that takes time and a willingness to recognize that one's first impression isn't necessarily accurate.

I use the term friend-zone, recently in a thread I started. To me it is just when you are attracted to someone, but the person does not see you in that sort of light and more values you as a friend.

According to Wikipedia, the friend-zone idea started off life in F.R.I.E.N.D.S and having never watched it probably explains why I had no idea what it was until the other day.

I think everyone has friends that they wouldn't date. It's not because they've been categorised into "Friends" and "Potential partners" but either you're not attracted to them in that way or you know things wouldn't work in a relationship. Apparently it's a girl thing more than a guy thing so I might not be getting this whole thing entirely but doesn't everyone have friends they know they wouldn't date?

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