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my ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago,finding my way to move on by not talking to him,just trying to get him out my life but heS in my group ,i avoid him but everyone wont stop talking about him even if i tell them too shut up,worst bit is one of my so called friends keeps asking me for advice saying she wants to go out with him when hes going out with someonelse its fucked up To be honest hes already cheated on his gf with a girll he cheated on with me !!! and wants my mate ,sad thing is my mate is clearly trying to upset me as who would seriously tell there friend who just went out with the guy -_- i dont know why im friends with her,shes one of those ppl you allways end up forgiving but everyone none stop talking about my ex is doing my head in ,even the guy i like a bit just now likes her heelpppp

Well, yuck. So sorry you're going thru this.

I think a (sad) part of adolescence for so many is this total self absorption you're describing...it's amazing how insensitive other so called friends can be!

I wouldn't take any of it personally, adolescence is like a virus, like a cold..everyone gets it, and everyone gets over it, and there's not much you can do in between other than be miserable and go to bed early....

Seriously, if you can reframe their behavior differently, it might be easier to tolerate. Don't take it personally, and try to distance yourself from the ones with the worst 'symptoms' here, it might be best to stay away for a while.

And FWIW, your ex sounds like a real scoundrel, better to be alone.

Rather than hating your friend for talking about him, why not try and help her? Talk to her and show her that this guy is someone who will cheat on her and will just end up hurting her. Talk from experience and convince her that liking this guys is a big mistake. If you manage it, she'll then stop asking for advice on him and should begin to stop talking about him altogether.

As for your other friends, when they talk to you or ask you about him, just calmly say that you don't want to talk about him/it. That way, they'll see that it's a subject that you're not comfortable with. Things will move on and soon, someone/something else will be a talking point and they'll stop talking about him.

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i think i will keep my distance for a while!
and my friend knows what hes like but she doesnt care, its like she is trying to annoy me To be honest.
i know it isnt the best idea but i rather just take the piss out of him and act like i dont care coz he trying to talk to me again saying hes not over me ect!!