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So here it is

I'd love some comments.

You showed him that you really need him, which is why he just dropped you. You made too much of an effort for him and he took advantage of it. He thinks that he can do better now because he knows he's very needed. I don't know if I made sense lol, I can't explain what I'm trying to say. But telling him you don't wanna talk anymore was the right thing to do, wait it out and he'll come back apologizing.
Might sound weird from a guy, but girls shouldn't make that much of an effort for a guy because if he doesn't make a better effort, then he isn't worth it. Guys'll get this big ass ego for nothing seeing a girl chasing them.

I'm not going to kid you here and give you false hope because you deserve better than that after what you've been through. You've told him how you feel and that you still want to be friends but that's not something he wants to do. It's unfair I know but if he doesn't want to be friends with you anymore, then there isn't anything you can do about it. He's moved on with his life and you're not going to thank me for saying this, but it's time for you to do the same.

I understand how hard it is to go through something like this (my last relationship ended in a surprisingly similar way) but the relationship is over and being friends doesn't seem an option anymore. After a serious relationship like yours, part of you still loves him and probably always will. Chances are you'll still care about him until you find someone you care about more. I'm not saying go out and get with another guy just to forget about your ex but when you do find someone new, you'll focus on them and your ex will drift into your past.

At the moment, the best thing you can do in my opinion is to try your best to pick yourself up and continue leading your life. From the way you are trying to sort things with your ex, I think you're a very determined type of person so be determined to make yourself feel better. Start off by deleting him from your life. Erase his number from your phone, remove him from Facebook etc. etc. This way, you won't start thinking about him all the time when you see his name pop up somewhere and you won't be tempted to keep trying to make things work because you tried now and he doesn't want to be friends.

Go out shopping with some mates, or hang around at the park. Do whatever you would normally do with your mates to have a good time. If you have any hobbies, go and do them as much as you can or if you don't, try something new and meet new friends. It's unfair what your ex did to you so prove to him that you're strong and that it's not hurting you anymore. I know you can do it.

I'm sorry that this is probably not what you wanted to hear but I don't see a way you can be friends with him if he doesn't want anything to do with you anymore. I hope this has helped.

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Yes I think you should be happy too. Try to keep in touch with him as a friend and when you see him or any of his friends, try to talk and catch up with stuff. Instead of implying by accident that your trying to get him back, from the start make it clear you still want to be friends and nothing more than that. If he knows the boundaries and is aware that you will not do anything silly or that you are not hurting inside he will still be friends with you and talk to you.

*Advice Given from Experience*

Hi Megan, welcome to Teen Forumz, I'm Sam. I wish you were here under diff circumstances, you're obviously in a lot of pain. I'm sorry, i know how awful that feels. But...it's temporary, even if you can't her that right now.

I think you're 1) in shock, and 2) grieving. Both very painful. What happened here wasn't by your choice, and although there was some tension btw'n you, you didn't really want it to end. 2 years is a long time, you develop real feelings and a deep emotional attachment after that time. Even with the conflict.

You didn't say your age here, but 2 years is a long time during adolescence not only because it's a long time to be with someone and develop that attachment, but also b/c you're both growing and changing so much as people, you're becoming more defined. As that happens, sometimes you grow apart, it just changes. So, it might not be just at the end that it got bad, but it might have been a gradual growing apart as you gradually grew up. That happens sometimes. And when it does, there's really not much to do about it. You or he or both are different, and that changes the relationship.

I think there's no easy answer here about what to do, you have to do what will bring some comfort and peace here. I'd just caution you to not do things or expect things from him as that source of comfort or peace, he might not be able to provide that. That's the hard part of loss, what you NEED is THEM, and they're unavailable to you. Yuck. You have to give yourself what you need..with the help of current attachments.

Everyone goes thru loss, and everyone survives....with support and understanding and comfort and TLC from those still around them. Some chocolate helps, too..lol..or anything else that will be of comfort to you. There's a real injury there, and even though you can't really see it, it's as real nonetheless. Treat it accordingly.

With time, you'll feel better and gain a different perspective on all this. Until then, give yourself some time to grieve, but also give yourself time to enjoy what's still gratifying to you.

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if a guy doesnt like you, drop them and move onto the next 1