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Caer · 11-02-11, 07:14 PM

So, I think this is pretty self explanatory.

Do you have an ex that has made a significant impact on your life?
How did they impact it?
Looking back on it, would you consider it to be a good or bad impact?

I'll go first I suppose as tonight's events sparked a certain story that inspired this thread.

So some of you may remember that my brother is getting married this June.
What none of you know is that his fiance is my ex boyfriend's older sister.

Marshall made a very significant impact on my life. Before I met him, he was arrested with 40 pills of Ecstasy and his parents bailed him out of jail for $5,000. All he got was house arrest,community service and he wasn't allowed to get his driver's license for several years after his legal driving age.I met him a year after the fact. He was clean as a whistle drug wise,still doing community service voluntarily rather than because he had to etc.
Sounds good, like he turned his life around, right?
Wrong.

It was 6 more months until he could legally get a license and start driving. He didn't want to wait that long so he somehow convinced his friend's father to lend him an extra truck he had,telling him he already had his license and whatnot.

Me being the naive teenager I was, taught him how to drive in a truck he wasn't legally allowed to drive and according to our laws, I was just as much to blame as him because I hadn't had my license for 4+ years to be considered a "mature" driver and legally allowed to teach him how to drive.
Luckily, I was never caught. He on the other hand was arrested again for helping steal of 800lbs of copper from his workplace and then they found out about the truck. Long story short, he was a bundle of trouble legally, let alone the bad influence he was on me.
He DID help me through some really hard times, granted. but he pulled me into a terrible lifestyle. I ended up replacing one self destructive behavior with several others under his influence. I ended up almost fucking up my entire senior year as well as threw away an athletic scholarship.

He was a fucked up individual and under his influence, I became quite fucked up as well, but I can't say he made more of a bad impact than a good one.
I don't really know exactly why I'm saying this, but I feel as though if he didn't lead me down that path in life, I wouldn't be where I am today, and I LIKE where I am. If I hadn't thrown away that scholarship, I wouldn't have met my husband or many of the best friends I have today etc.

bree_loves_you · 12-02-11, 12:43 AM

most ex's are just a bit of fun

but one i actually loved and cared about. he showed me it was ok to trust someone

good impact

Individuality · 12-02-11, 08:38 AM

Some one taught me it's ok to be yourself and everyone deserves a second chance.

Perfect Accident · 12-02-11, 04:16 PM

my ex has had a big impact on me. he is the father of my babies. he is a drug addict. he told me to get an abortion, and then he left me when i said no. now he wants back in my life. i told him that the only way that would happen is if he changed. i dropped him off at detox/rehab the other day. he is doing good. his nightly calls are to me. to see how i am doing and how i am feeling.

i know that i am sort of stupid for wanting/letting him back into my life. but i cannot take care of twins alone. this is his only chance that he has to show me that he wants to be a part of my life and a part of the babies lives.

he has had a good impact on me in a way. he taught me that it is ok to be myself. not to be as shy around people. he helped me become a somewhat better person in public. he also helped me to like my body for what it is and not be soo self conscious.

Individuality · 13-02-11, 09:09 AM

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Originally Posted by twins21

my ex has had a big impact on me. he is the father of my babies. he is a drug addict. he told me to get an abortion, and then he left me when i said no. now he wants back in my life. i told him that the only way that would happen is if he changed. i dropped him off at detox/rehab the other day. he is doing good. his nightly calls are to me. to see how i am doing and how i am feeling.

i know that i am sort of stupid for wanting/letting him back into my life. but i cannot take care of twins alone. this is his only chance that he has to show me that he wants to be a part of my life and a part of the babies lives.

he has had a good impact on me in a way. he taught me that it is ok to be myself. not to be as shy around people. he helped me become a somewhat better person in public. he also helped me to like my body for what it is and not be soo self conscious.

He's trying to turn his life around for you and his daughters/sons that's amazing i hope he continues going down a good road!

Masquerade · 13-02-11, 10:33 AM

Never had an ex :')

Perfect Accident · 13-02-11, 11:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Sarahh

He's trying to turn his life around for you and his daughters/sons that's amazing i hope he continues going down a good road!

i hope so too.

he has been doing good. he was transferred out of detox into a rehab facility earlier today, well, yesterday. have not heard from him since the night before he left.

Armooo · 26-02-12, 01:31 PM

My ex is the father of my daughter, and my best friend.
Hope that we will get back together, but hes had a great impact on my life and I have on his. We were both n bad places when we met, and helped each other out of them. We created a gorgeous baby and a bond that will never be broken.

Mazamaras · 26-02-12, 02:14 PM

The impact that my ex has on me is the fact that i spent loads of time with her, whcih means a lot of things are connected to her so my thoughts often come back around to thinking of her :o

LaurenTheNerd · 26-02-12, 02:20 PM

It wasn't even an ex but we were "thinking about it". He left me depressed and he killed my self esteem. Bad impact on me but I'm glad it turned out badly now, I wouldn't have met Kirk otherwise <3